Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 23, 2009, I had my twelfth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza.
This is the last session with my peer coach for this program. Here is my reflection and I would like to share it with you.
My wins for the all the sessions:
~ A much better inner dialog practice with myself
~ Finish my coaching model in draft.
~ Get my passion game in more detail and understand myself more and more.
~ Start to get more confidence about my coaching career.
I feel that I have done so much and made a great progress in so many ways since you joined the ICA. I feel so great that have learned and accomplished so much in such a short time. Coaching truly is a transformational process.
I will keep going and find another peer coach in this program.
Thank you so much, Faiza!
2009/4/30
AC111 Underlying Automatic Commitments (1) - Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
April 29, I took the teleclass course- AC111:. Underlying Automatic Commitments, in this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “UAC’s are fundamental to all the ICA Coaching Power Tools”.
People are always committed to something, whether conscious of it or not. We engage in behaviors, which create outcomes in our lives, as a result of our underlying commitments, judgments or beliefs. Whatever a person is truly committed to they will experience. (Note: Whether or not the above premise is true, this is not what really matters here. We are interested in what empowers people and we have found this way of looking at life to be a very effective one.)
While we quoted from our reading material, we can see it very clear, a lot of people keeping doing thing at the way which they don’t aware it. There is UACs behind.
Our function as a coach is to help our clients to know their UACs and how to deal with it. The goal is to help our coach to aware it and break through it.
The best place to look for an UAC is within the situation in which you are confronted. In other words, by looking at the outcomes or the results we have in our life, which we don’t want. Going back to our original premise, which is: whatever a person is truly committed to they will create and experience, we can use these unwanted results to define what the underlying automatic commitment is in life.
Once the UAC is detected, it is time to do something about it. First, it allows one to be able to make a choice. The “owner” of the UAC has to decide whether or not to remain a “victim” of it, or take responsibility (own it) by addressing it. This kind of action is what we refer to as “taking action outside of it.” In sum, the power to overcome any given UAC comes from handling or“owning” the UAC rather than resisting or simply denying it.
This course is very important for a coach and we should aware our own UACs as well.
April 29, I took the teleclass course- AC111:. Underlying Automatic Commitments, in this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “UAC’s are fundamental to all the ICA Coaching Power Tools”.
People are always committed to something, whether conscious of it or not. We engage in behaviors, which create outcomes in our lives, as a result of our underlying commitments, judgments or beliefs. Whatever a person is truly committed to they will experience. (Note: Whether or not the above premise is true, this is not what really matters here. We are interested in what empowers people and we have found this way of looking at life to be a very effective one.)
While we quoted from our reading material, we can see it very clear, a lot of people keeping doing thing at the way which they don’t aware it. There is UACs behind.
Our function as a coach is to help our clients to know their UACs and how to deal with it. The goal is to help our coach to aware it and break through it.
The best place to look for an UAC is within the situation in which you are confronted. In other words, by looking at the outcomes or the results we have in our life, which we don’t want. Going back to our original premise, which is: whatever a person is truly committed to they will create and experience, we can use these unwanted results to define what the underlying automatic commitment is in life.
Once the UAC is detected, it is time to do something about it. First, it allows one to be able to make a choice. The “owner” of the UAC has to decide whether or not to remain a “victim” of it, or take responsibility (own it) by addressing it. This kind of action is what we refer to as “taking action outside of it.” In sum, the power to overcome any given UAC comes from handling or“owning” the UAC rather than resisting or simply denying it.
This course is very important for a coach and we should aware our own UACs as well.
2009/4/29
AC108 Coaching Process (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator- Bill Turpin
April 28, I took AC108 Coaching Process (part 2), since I am developing my own coaching model and thinking about the process, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
I really like the definition from Bill about coaching model and coaching process: Coaching process: what does the client experience!
Coaching model: How do we proceed as a coach!
In the coaching process, it will have the peaks and valleys. We should share with out clients about the process, and let them know that in valleys, it is nature. Sometimes, the client is just in the valleys, and as a coach, we must aware it.
At the beginning of the coaching process, we should know several things:
1. We should know it clear about gap between the goal and starting point of the client.
2. Understand the value system, value of the client. We can ask a question like “what matter you most in your normal life?”
3. In the trail session, we must share with the client about authentic self, how we proceed as a coach.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.Finally, we get an assignment, how can we create a safe environment to our clients?
Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
April 28, I took AC108 Coaching Process (part 2), since I am developing my own coaching model and thinking about the process, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
I really like the definition from Bill about coaching model and coaching process: Coaching process: what does the client experience!
Coaching model: How do we proceed as a coach!
In the coaching process, it will have the peaks and valleys. We should share with out clients about the process, and let them know that in valleys, it is nature. Sometimes, the client is just in the valleys, and as a coach, we must aware it.
At the beginning of the coaching process, we should know several things:
1. We should know it clear about gap between the goal and starting point of the client.
2. Understand the value system, value of the client. We can ask a question like “what matter you most in your normal life?”
3. In the trail session, we must share with the client about authentic self, how we proceed as a coach.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.Finally, we get an assignment, how can we create a safe environment to our clients?
Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
AC-203 Empowering the coaching relationship (2) -Reflection on this teleclass
Moderator-Prabha Chandrasekhar
April 22, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC 203 Empowering the coaching relationship (2). In this session, I had a deep feeling about the importance of coaching relationship, how we can build the trust and space between coach and the coachee.
The attitude we should have is” all the process and result is for the coachee, not ourselves”. We should keep our curiosity about what happened to the coachee all the time. Keep our authentic self, and be honest to our coachee.We can start at some opening question to make the client know that we are curious to them. Such as, “What's your challenge this week?, What do you focus on today/this week?, How is your week? …etc.
We are responsible for providing good coaching, including setting up a powerful structure for our coaching relationship, maintaining accountability, and maintaining our self-imposed standards. Our client is responsible for all outcomes, good and bad. The clients get the credit when they have wins, and they take responsibility for anything that doesn’t work. While we may from
time to time provide advice, and even be directive, it should be clear to the client that all responsibility for the choices they make lies with them.
I enjoyed this course very much!
April 22, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC 203 Empowering the coaching relationship (2). In this session, I had a deep feeling about the importance of coaching relationship, how we can build the trust and space between coach and the coachee.
The attitude we should have is” all the process and result is for the coachee, not ourselves”. We should keep our curiosity about what happened to the coachee all the time. Keep our authentic self, and be honest to our coachee.We can start at some opening question to make the client know that we are curious to them. Such as, “What's your challenge this week?, What do you focus on today/this week?, How is your week? …etc.
We are responsible for providing good coaching, including setting up a powerful structure for our coaching relationship, maintaining accountability, and maintaining our self-imposed standards. Our client is responsible for all outcomes, good and bad. The clients get the credit when they have wins, and they take responsibility for anything that doesn’t work. While we may from
time to time provide advice, and even be directive, it should be clear to the client that all responsibility for the choices they make lies with them.
I enjoyed this course very much!
2009/4/28
AC102 Enthusing (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
April 20, I took the teleclass course- AC102: Enthusing (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Get what they need to hold the good “. Reflect the past success may bring you the power for further action.
To enthuse someone means to make someone enthusiastic about something. The act of enthusing involves “energizing” the moment. As coaches we try to “energize” or enthuse our clients to take action to bring about changes in their lives for the better.
A common method people use to force someone to change their way - or make a shift – is to imply that they are bad or wrong. “This isn’t right, why can’t you do it this way?”Often this is done in a subtle way. Simply questioning their choice in a particular tone of voice can be enough to make someone question their judgment and defer to our judgment. As coaches we believe that the client is the expert in his or her life. We want them to exercise their judgment, not rely on ours.
As coaches we want to support our clients to make positive changes. But we need to do this in a way that builds their sense of worth and allows them to develop skills and judgment. Fortunately, there is a more positive and powerful way to support people to bring about change in their lives. It is about changing perspective with a gentle and joyful touch. It is about “supporting” someone into empowerment and towards a forward movement of action. In coaching we call this technique enthusing.
I quoted a lot from our reading material because the article touched me a lot.
April 20, I took the teleclass course- AC102: Enthusing (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Get what they need to hold the good “. Reflect the past success may bring you the power for further action.
To enthuse someone means to make someone enthusiastic about something. The act of enthusing involves “energizing” the moment. As coaches we try to “energize” or enthuse our clients to take action to bring about changes in their lives for the better.
A common method people use to force someone to change their way - or make a shift – is to imply that they are bad or wrong. “This isn’t right, why can’t you do it this way?”Often this is done in a subtle way. Simply questioning their choice in a particular tone of voice can be enough to make someone question their judgment and defer to our judgment. As coaches we believe that the client is the expert in his or her life. We want them to exercise their judgment, not rely on ours.
As coaches we want to support our clients to make positive changes. But we need to do this in a way that builds their sense of worth and allows them to develop skills and judgment. Fortunately, there is a more positive and powerful way to support people to bring about change in their lives. It is about changing perspective with a gentle and joyful touch. It is about “supporting” someone into empowerment and towards a forward movement of action. In coaching we call this technique enthusing.
I quoted a lot from our reading material because the article touched me a lot.
AC204: Re-Framing 1 - Reflection on the session
Moderator-Kathy Monuz
April 09, I took a teleclass course-AC 204, Re-Framing 1,
The moderator leaded it into 3 parts from my perspective:
1. Inviting attendants to share our opinions about perspective and Re-framing.
2. Asking questions to lead us to think about perspective and Re-framing.
3. Conclusion and ask for a homework.
I feel it is really a facilitation of Re-framing session.
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern – get clear on - their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this reframing.
From the reading material, I do enjoying the following: "Have you ever looked at something and said “Aha! I got it!” When it “clicks” suddenly, there seems to be a breakthrough. "
Understanding happens. Re-framing is an art and when done powerfully, it can change a client’s life in an instant. A powerful question to ask when someone is going through a difficult time is: "What is your perspective on this that is giving you this result?" Followed by: "How could you reframe this?" In other words, “let’s look at this in a different light to better understand this situation.”
ere are some powerful questions we could use to help someone reframe their perspective and in the course, the moderator facilitate us to experience it:
“How does that perspective work for you?”
"How could this be fun?"
"What will it take to reach this particular objective?"
"If you were up for a breakthrough with your productivity, what would you do?"
"What is the most enjoyable aspect about this?"
"What's missing here, that once it is included, will make this situation flow?"
"Can you understand the other person’s perspective?"
Re-framing is a very powerful idea in coaching.
April 09, I took a teleclass course-AC 204, Re-Framing 1,
The moderator leaded it into 3 parts from my perspective:
1. Inviting attendants to share our opinions about perspective and Re-framing.
2. Asking questions to lead us to think about perspective and Re-framing.
3. Conclusion and ask for a homework.
I feel it is really a facilitation of Re-framing session.
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern – get clear on - their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this reframing.
From the reading material, I do enjoying the following: "Have you ever looked at something and said “Aha! I got it!” When it “clicks” suddenly, there seems to be a breakthrough. "
Understanding happens. Re-framing is an art and when done powerfully, it can change a client’s life in an instant. A powerful question to ask when someone is going through a difficult time is: "What is your perspective on this that is giving you this result?" Followed by: "How could you reframe this?" In other words, “let’s look at this in a different light to better understand this situation.”
ere are some powerful questions we could use to help someone reframe their perspective and in the course, the moderator facilitate us to experience it:
“How does that perspective work for you?”
"How could this be fun?"
"What will it take to reach this particular objective?"
"If you were up for a breakthrough with your productivity, what would you do?"
"What is the most enjoyable aspect about this?"
"What's missing here, that once it is included, will make this situation flow?"
"Can you understand the other person’s perspective?"
Re-framing is a very powerful idea in coaching.
AC101 Acknoledgement (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
April 06, I took the teleclass course- AC101: Acknowledgement (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Acknowledgement is the way to bring the people to focus on what they have”. It should make people feel comfortable and nature.
When to Acknowledge, Acknowledgment comes after the client has taken action. However acknowledgment is not just about the action, it is about who the client is being while they are taking action. We acknowledge our clients for their values and their purpose and not just their activity. The language we use for acknowledging someone is: “I want to acknowledge you for….”
Encourage, there is a Chinese proverb that states: “The participant's perspectives are clouded while the bystander's views are clear.” There are many times when the client cannot see what we, as their coach, can see.
Hold a Vision, part of holding a vision is also reminding the client of how far they have come. A powerful strategy for holding the vision is to have them look into their past to recall experiences they have had which seemed impossible but became possible.
When we hold a vision for our clients we say things like:
● “What evidence do you have to prove to yourself that you can do this?”
● “Tell me what happened when you were challenged with (insert a goal that they achieved)?” As coaches, we help turn the vision into reality, the dream into an achievement and the goal into an accomplishment. Encouragement leads to persistence and attainment.
This is a nice course to learn about inspiring a client by using acknowledgement.
April 06, I took the teleclass course- AC101: Acknowledgement (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Acknowledgement is the way to bring the people to focus on what they have”. It should make people feel comfortable and nature.
When to Acknowledge, Acknowledgment comes after the client has taken action. However acknowledgment is not just about the action, it is about who the client is being while they are taking action. We acknowledge our clients for their values and their purpose and not just their activity. The language we use for acknowledging someone is: “I want to acknowledge you for….”
Encourage, there is a Chinese proverb that states: “The participant's perspectives are clouded while the bystander's views are clear.” There are many times when the client cannot see what we, as their coach, can see.
Hold a Vision, part of holding a vision is also reminding the client of how far they have come. A powerful strategy for holding the vision is to have them look into their past to recall experiences they have had which seemed impossible but became possible.
When we hold a vision for our clients we say things like:
● “What evidence do you have to prove to yourself that you can do this?”
● “Tell me what happened when you were challenged with (insert a goal that they achieved)?” As coaches, we help turn the vision into reality, the dream into an achievement and the goal into an accomplishment. Encouragement leads to persistence and attainment.
This is a nice course to learn about inspiring a client by using acknowledgement.
AC112 Powerful Requests (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
March 23, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC112 Powerful Requests (2). As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
A request is like a contract. The client has three options:
• Accept it
• Say no, and give a reason
• Negotiation
if clients make no progress on what he had promised:
Find the Root Cause out, ask some questions:
1. How do you feel if you accomplish the goal?
2. Could be something block!
3. Even it is not what they really want.
4. Do you really want to accomplish the goal?
5. A lot of dimensions to see as a coach!
Challenging our clients, this is what I really get feeling about. I would like to quoted it from our reading material which I do think that it is good for me to use, while I am facing the situation:
Challenges are similar to making a Bold Request, except that there's a zest to challenges that stimulates many people. It's a fun perspective and it has an element of game to it. For instance, when you say: "I challenge you to increase your sales by 20 percent this week," you are setting the standard for improvement. It is an I-dare-you-game, or let’s-play-to-see-if-you-can-do-this type of a game: "I challenge you to share this with your father in the next two days." This statement "pushes" the client to do something rather than nothing. The best thing you can do for a client is to "raise the bar." Give them a bigger game to play and have fun!
Thank you and this is a wonderful way to stimulate the coachee.
March 23, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC112 Powerful Requests (2). As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
A request is like a contract. The client has three options:
• Accept it
• Say no, and give a reason
• Negotiation
if clients make no progress on what he had promised:
Find the Root Cause out, ask some questions:
1. How do you feel if you accomplish the goal?
2. Could be something block!
3. Even it is not what they really want.
4. Do you really want to accomplish the goal?
5. A lot of dimensions to see as a coach!
Challenging our clients, this is what I really get feeling about. I would like to quoted it from our reading material which I do think that it is good for me to use, while I am facing the situation:
Challenges are similar to making a Bold Request, except that there's a zest to challenges that stimulates many people. It's a fun perspective and it has an element of game to it. For instance, when you say: "I challenge you to increase your sales by 20 percent this week," you are setting the standard for improvement. It is an I-dare-you-game, or let’s-play-to-see-if-you-can-do-this type of a game: "I challenge you to share this with your father in the next two days." This statement "pushes" the client to do something rather than nothing. The best thing you can do for a client is to "raise the bar." Give them a bigger game to play and have fun!
Thank you and this is a wonderful way to stimulate the coachee.
2009/4/24
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Eleventh
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 16, 2009, I had my eleventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza.
Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins for the last week:
~ A much better inner dialog practice with myself
~ Exercise more with jogging 6km, 3km/per time, three times/per week
~ Test my passion game in more detail.
~ Start to get more confidence about my coaching model.
I feel that you have done so much and made a great progress in so many ways since you joined the ICA and I really wish to ACKNOWLEDGE YOU for that!
How does it feel to have learned and accomplished so much in such a short time?
Coaching truly is a transformational process, isn't it?
In our last session we used a process I learned through NLP, it is called Core Issue.
You can find more about it in the book that I can recommend to any coach:
"Coaching with NLP"
http://www.amazon.co.jp/s/ref=nb_ss_fg_eng?__mk_ja_JP=%83J%83%5E%83J%83i&url=search-alias%3Denglish-books&field-keywords=coaching+with+NLP&x=0&y=0
Using this process we explored what spirituality means for you
and you found that you could connect with it much better this way, it felt more realistic now.
We also mentioned a teacher of mine (Bert Hellinger, developer of Family Constellations) and what "enlightened" means to him.
You seem to like his definition. And this relates what Nani Ma says about serving (the paragraph I sent you).
It seems like you are defining what spirituality and enlightenment mean to you - How exciting:)
We are going to start with our 12th session soon, so let's have fun and make this a memorable session ~
your coach Faiza
April 16, 2009, I had my eleventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza.
Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins for the last week:
~ A much better inner dialog practice with myself
~ Exercise more with jogging 6km, 3km/per time, three times/per week
~ Test my passion game in more detail.
~ Start to get more confidence about my coaching model.
I feel that you have done so much and made a great progress in so many ways since you joined the ICA and I really wish to ACKNOWLEDGE YOU for that!
How does it feel to have learned and accomplished so much in such a short time?
Coaching truly is a transformational process, isn't it?
In our last session we used a process I learned through NLP, it is called Core Issue.
You can find more about it in the book that I can recommend to any coach:
"Coaching with NLP"
http://www.amazon.co.jp/s/ref=nb_ss_fg_eng?__mk_ja_JP=%83J%83%5E%83J%83i&url=search-alias%3Denglish-books&field-keywords=coaching+with+NLP&x=0&y=0
Using this process we explored what spirituality means for you
and you found that you could connect with it much better this way, it felt more realistic now.
We also mentioned a teacher of mine (Bert Hellinger, developer of Family Constellations) and what "enlightened" means to him.
You seem to like his definition. And this relates what Nani Ma says about serving (the paragraph I sent you).
It seems like you are defining what spirituality and enlightenment mean to you - How exciting:)
We are going to start with our 12th session soon, so let's have fun and make this a memorable session ~
your coach Faiza
2009/4/16
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Tenth
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 09, 2009, I had my tenth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
Wins for this last week:
~ The biggest win was the creating of my coaching model, draft.
~ Created 9 passion cards and put some of them up (at work and at home, in the car...)
~ Kept my exercise routine - running 3 times a week, 3km each run
We discussed what coaching means to me. Thanks to the Passion Game I felt that I have more clarity now around this. Coaching is one of my skills and it helps me reach what I want in my life.
Besides being a coach, I also want to be a teacher and facilitator (team building for example).
We also looked at the Wheel of Life again and had me grade my levels of satisfaction for each area in this moment. It seems like I have a pretty smooth ride.
After this we did something fun, something new and daring:
Faiza offered me a coaching challenge of having a laser (5 min.) coaching session to coach her.
I went for it
The powerful questions I used as the coach:
~ What was the reason (What made you) you started thinking about working with this partner in the first place?
...
So it originally sounded like a good combination and what you are concerned about is your partner's commitment.
~ Do you have any ways, any criteria to test your partner's commitment?...
What I noticed in this session about your coaching competencies:
- You listened to me deeply and without interrupting
- You asked me good, powerful coaching questions
- You were fully present in our session
- You helped me create awareness
- You helped me design an action
For a list of all coaching competencies go to:
http://www.coachfederation.org/research%2Deducation/icf%2Dcredentials/core%2Dcompetencies/
What I acknowledged myself for in this session:
~ I really enjoyed the laser session
~ I noticed the improvement in my Wheel of Life.
~ I was grateful for the coach using the right pace with me
My homeplay for the next week:
~ keep playing the Passion Game by taking the next step - Have fun with the Markers!
~ think about practicing more coaching
Thank you, my dear coach, Miss Faiza!
April 09, 2009, I had my tenth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
Wins for this last week:
~ The biggest win was the creating of my coaching model, draft.
~ Created 9 passion cards and put some of them up (at work and at home, in the car...)
~ Kept my exercise routine - running 3 times a week, 3km each run
We discussed what coaching means to me. Thanks to the Passion Game I felt that I have more clarity now around this. Coaching is one of my skills and it helps me reach what I want in my life.
Besides being a coach, I also want to be a teacher and facilitator (team building for example).
We also looked at the Wheel of Life again and had me grade my levels of satisfaction for each area in this moment. It seems like I have a pretty smooth ride.
After this we did something fun, something new and daring:
Faiza offered me a coaching challenge of having a laser (5 min.) coaching session to coach her.
I went for it
The powerful questions I used as the coach:
~ What was the reason (What made you) you started thinking about working with this partner in the first place?
...
So it originally sounded like a good combination and what you are concerned about is your partner's commitment.
~ Do you have any ways, any criteria to test your partner's commitment?...
What I noticed in this session about your coaching competencies:
- You listened to me deeply and without interrupting
- You asked me good, powerful coaching questions
- You were fully present in our session
- You helped me create awareness
- You helped me design an action
For a list of all coaching competencies go to:
http://www.coachfederation.org/research%2Deducation/icf%2Dcredentials/core%2Dcompetencies/
What I acknowledged myself for in this session:
~ I really enjoyed the laser session
~ I noticed the improvement in my Wheel of Life.
~ I was grateful for the coach using the right pace with me
My homeplay for the next week:
~ keep playing the Passion Game by taking the next step - Have fun with the Markers!
~ think about practicing more coaching
Thank you, my dear coach, Miss Faiza!
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Ninth
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 02, 2009, I had my ninth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins:
~ worked on my coaching logo, card and model: the symbol on the card is a crystal vessel (also the name of the blog).
"Crystal"~ stands for transparent, not hiding anything.
"Vessel" ~ represents a container that can contain a lot of water / flow
Chinese ancient philosopher "Lao Tsu" said something like:
Water is the best, it can wash everything, it's flexible, and it can carry a ship...
A leader should be like water (the best is to be like water).
"Vessel" = Coach listens to the client, and is being like water (flexible, can wash everything)
"Crystal" = clear, transparent, and strong
"Crystal Vessel and Sky" = both can be as a symbol of "Dreams" (client's dreams get realized through coaching)
The meaning of my name:
Jen - empathy, kindness, following the power of nature
Yung - courage (People should never give up. Never Say Never!)
We used a process-passion game for selecting my top five passions.
And here is the list of my Top Five Passions:
1. I am helping people to reach their goals and improve life quality
2. I am enjoying an ideal relationship with my family
3. I am having free will and time to do things at the present
4. I am a good teacher, facilitator and coach
5. I am totally free in my body, mind and soul
Acknowledge myself:
~ I can use my coaching skills to help people reach their goals. I feel that now I have more power to help others.
~ I am grateful for being able to understand my self better now
~ I am getting a better idea of how to explain my coaching model
My home-play for this week:
Keep playing the passion game by taking the next step in the process.
Thank you so much, my dear coach!
April 02, 2009, I had my ninth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins:
~ worked on my coaching logo, card and model: the symbol on the card is a crystal vessel (also the name of the blog).
"Crystal"~ stands for transparent, not hiding anything.
"Vessel" ~ represents a container that can contain a lot of water / flow
Chinese ancient philosopher "Lao Tsu" said something like:
Water is the best, it can wash everything, it's flexible, and it can carry a ship...
A leader should be like water (the best is to be like water).
"Vessel" = Coach listens to the client, and is being like water (flexible, can wash everything)
"Crystal" = clear, transparent, and strong
"Crystal Vessel and Sky" = both can be as a symbol of "Dreams" (client's dreams get realized through coaching)
The meaning of my name:
Jen - empathy, kindness, following the power of nature
Yung - courage (People should never give up. Never Say Never!)
We used a process-passion game for selecting my top five passions.
And here is the list of my Top Five Passions:
1. I am helping people to reach their goals and improve life quality
2. I am enjoying an ideal relationship with my family
3. I am having free will and time to do things at the present
4. I am a good teacher, facilitator and coach
5. I am totally free in my body, mind and soul
Acknowledge myself:
~ I can use my coaching skills to help people reach their goals. I feel that now I have more power to help others.
~ I am grateful for being able to understand my self better now
~ I am getting a better idea of how to explain my coaching model
My home-play for this week:
Keep playing the passion game by taking the next step in the process.
Thank you so much, my dear coach!
2009/4/9
AC107 Coaching Model (1) -Relection on this course
Moderator- Bill Turpin
March 24, I took AC107 Coaching Model (1), since I am developing my own coaching model, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.
Bill shared us with his coaching model as an example to describe what’s different between coaching model and coaching process. The definition is as below:
Coaching model: Is how you process as a coach! / Is what I use in each case.
Coaching process: Is what happened to the client! / Is how the client experienced?
Finally, we should be able to pattern, visualize, and verbalize the coaching model. It is how a client describes your way of coaching. It is how you attract your client. It is about who we are, and what we can bring to our clients! Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
March 24, I took AC107 Coaching Model (1), since I am developing my own coaching model, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.
Bill shared us with his coaching model as an example to describe what’s different between coaching model and coaching process. The definition is as below:
Coaching model: Is how you process as a coach! / Is what I use in each case.
Coaching process: Is what happened to the client! / Is how the client experienced?
Finally, we should be able to pattern, visualize, and verbalize the coaching model. It is how a client describes your way of coaching. It is how you attract your client. It is about who we are, and what we can bring to our clients! Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
Reflection on Peer Coaching-The Eighth
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
March 26, 2009, I had my eighth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. We have talked about my SWOT analysis for my coaching career. The best learning I took away from this session is that Faiza asked me to re-frame my weakness.
The different perspective and different situation, the weakness may become a strength. This helps me a lot in looking at myself and I become more stronger.
March 26, 2009, I had my eighth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. We have talked about my SWOT analysis for my coaching career. The best learning I took away from this session is that Faiza asked me to re-frame my weakness.
The different perspective and different situation, the weakness may become a strength. This helps me a lot in looking at myself and I become more stronger.
2009/3/26
Reflection on Peer Coaching-The Seventh
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
March 19, 2009, I had my seventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and she gave me our talking summary as below, which I would like to share with you.
My wins for the previous week:
~ Exercised 3 times (running) and went cycling once - This is a great achievement, James!
~ My personal life is getting better
~ Coaching - the ICA classes are quite OK now, I am used to it.
~ Also I was able to attend a learning circle in Taipei with other people who joined ICA at the same time.
At work, I am still finding it difficult to lay people off. And yet I would like to challenge myself in this, to practice: When I feel that something is the right thing to do, even if somebody gets a disadvantage through it, I want to do it because I believe that by doing it I might be able to help them get an opportunity to find a better job...
Maybe I will use inner conversation technique to practice this more.
Changing ours or our client's perspective:
Q: How do you do it?
James: I use my personal imagination. When I lay someone off, I imagine this person half a year later in another place, happier and smiling...
Combination of asking questions: What advantages does the old perspective have?
What disadvantage does it have? Or what is it costing you? Also I will ask the client to visualize a successful situation with the new perspective in the future. There are so many things I feel grateful for. Even though the economic situation in general is not very good right now, I am aware that I am very fortunate having your family and the job that I have. Also I feel that my life is better compared to others because I use coaching to balance myself. I believe that coaching can really make people happier.
Taking away from this session:
~ Every time we coach, I feel more energetic afterwards
~ Visualization
~ Karen Cappello ( The ICA chief learning instructor) and the idea of inspired, authentic action
~ Understanding that you want to have more coaching skills in order to be able to help more people
Committing for the next week to:
~ Create a list of my strengths as a coach
~ Think about my coaching role models and their qualities (You spot it, you got it:)
~ Practice more shifting my perspective for the situation at work
~ Keep running and cycling (my goal is the 5km run)
My acronym, rainbow logo and SWOT presentation are great steps in this direction!
March 19, 2009, I had my seventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and she gave me our talking summary as below, which I would like to share with you.
My wins for the previous week:
~ Exercised 3 times (running) and went cycling once - This is a great achievement, James!
~ My personal life is getting better
~ Coaching - the ICA classes are quite OK now, I am used to it.
~ Also I was able to attend a learning circle in Taipei with other people who joined ICA at the same time.
At work, I am still finding it difficult to lay people off. And yet I would like to challenge myself in this, to practice: When I feel that something is the right thing to do, even if somebody gets a disadvantage through it, I want to do it because I believe that by doing it I might be able to help them get an opportunity to find a better job...
Maybe I will use inner conversation technique to practice this more.
Changing ours or our client's perspective:
Q: How do you do it?
James: I use my personal imagination. When I lay someone off, I imagine this person half a year later in another place, happier and smiling...
Combination of asking questions: What advantages does the old perspective have?
What disadvantage does it have? Or what is it costing you? Also I will ask the client to visualize a successful situation with the new perspective in the future. There are so many things I feel grateful for. Even though the economic situation in general is not very good right now, I am aware that I am very fortunate having your family and the job that I have. Also I feel that my life is better compared to others because I use coaching to balance myself. I believe that coaching can really make people happier.
Taking away from this session:
~ Every time we coach, I feel more energetic afterwards
~ Visualization
~ Karen Cappello ( The ICA chief learning instructor) and the idea of inspired, authentic action
~ Understanding that you want to have more coaching skills in order to be able to help more people
Committing for the next week to:
~ Create a list of my strengths as a coach
~ Think about my coaching role models and their qualities (You spot it, you got it:)
~ Practice more shifting my perspective for the situation at work
~ Keep running and cycling (my goal is the 5km run)
My acronym, rainbow logo and SWOT presentation are great steps in this direction!
Reflection on Peer Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
March 12, 2009, I had my sixth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and I would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “Transforming Session”. In this session, I had a feeling that my perspective about good leadership is changing, let the member go to find the place where is much more suitable for them may be a good solution as well.
We practiced to use the imagination technology in this session and thought that one year later, the person who had been laid off from our company is happier in the other organization. By doing this way, I can really feel relax in let people go.
If I really want something, I will find a way to get it, not an excuse.
I love this is all happening "in front of my eyes" and I can share it with you.”
March 12, 2009, I had my sixth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and I would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “Transforming Session”. In this session, I had a feeling that my perspective about good leadership is changing, let the member go to find the place where is much more suitable for them may be a good solution as well.
We practiced to use the imagination technology in this session and thought that one year later, the person who had been laid off from our company is happier in the other organization. By doing this way, I can really feel relax in let people go.
If I really want something, I will find a way to get it, not an excuse.
I love this is all happening "in front of my eyes" and I can share it with you.”
2009/3/20
AC-203 Empowering the coaching relationship (1) -Reflection on this teleclass
Moderator-Kathy Munoz
March 19, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC 203 Empowering the coaching relationship (1).
You will soon become an expert at recognizing when a client is not coachable. Clues are:
It feels like you are pushing/
The client is resisting or arguing/
The client will not take an action. I really like these statements.
In this session, I had the following sentences which I like them very much:
1. Key successful factor, it could be personal experience and life story.
2. A “trial” session may not be a good term, Kathy would like to call it “discovery” session. (Kathy gets legal background)
3. Marshall Goldsmith said “feedforward” instead of “feedback”.
4. Making it fun
5. Creating feedback loops
Here are some key elements we may wish to include in our coaching sessions:
Acknowledgement
Accountability
Enthusing
Focus
Action
Feedback
ICA creates a really good learning environment, thant you!
March 19, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC 203 Empowering the coaching relationship (1).
You will soon become an expert at recognizing when a client is not coachable. Clues are:
It feels like you are pushing/
The client is resisting or arguing/
The client will not take an action. I really like these statements.
In this session, I had the following sentences which I like them very much:
1. Key successful factor, it could be personal experience and life story.
2. A “trial” session may not be a good term, Kathy would like to call it “discovery” session. (Kathy gets legal background)
3. Marshall Goldsmith said “feedforward” instead of “feedback”.
4. Making it fun
5. Creating feedback loops
Here are some key elements we may wish to include in our coaching sessions:
Acknowledgement
Accountability
Enthusing
Focus
Action
Feedback
ICA creates a really good learning environment, thant you!
AC106 Peer Coaching (1) -Relection on this course
Moderator- Bill Turpin
March 17, I took AC106 Peer Coaching (1), since I have one peer coach who is doing a great job for me now, I really have a very good feeling about this topic.
Bill facilitated this class be a supportive class by asking the attendants for any kind of questions for ICA coaching training program. I would like to share what I have learned and read in the session and material: In this session, I learned the most is understood about the design structure of ICA program.
Before starting out coaching others at ICA, we ask that you be coached yourself for 12 sessions by another ICA student who is further through the program.
Being a Coach Client and Being a Coach are important in learning process, learning by doing is the key of being a good coach.
Why 12 sessions? There are any number of processes for coaching and no one arrangement that meets everyone’s needs. However, ICA believe that, 12 sessions is required to build a solid relationship of trust with your peer client. The 12 sessions also allow you and your peer client to experience a full range of coaching experiences and for you to try a range of strategies.
Finally, when in doubt, ask for help. We can gain support via the Discussion Board or in the teleclasses from our colleagues and teleclass leaders, like Mr. Bill Turpin .
Thank you
March 17, I took AC106 Peer Coaching (1), since I have one peer coach who is doing a great job for me now, I really have a very good feeling about this topic.
Bill facilitated this class be a supportive class by asking the attendants for any kind of questions for ICA coaching training program. I would like to share what I have learned and read in the session and material: In this session, I learned the most is understood about the design structure of ICA program.
Before starting out coaching others at ICA, we ask that you be coached yourself for 12 sessions by another ICA student who is further through the program.
Being a Coach Client and Being a Coach are important in learning process, learning by doing is the key of being a good coach.
Why 12 sessions? There are any number of processes for coaching and no one arrangement that meets everyone’s needs. However, ICA believe that, 12 sessions is required to build a solid relationship of trust with your peer client. The 12 sessions also allow you and your peer client to experience a full range of coaching experiences and for you to try a range of strategies.
Finally, when in doubt, ask for help. We can gain support via the Discussion Board or in the teleclasses from our colleagues and teleclass leaders, like Mr. Bill Turpin .
Thank you
AC110 The Challenging Client (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator- Michael Moniv
March 10, I retook AC110 the Challenging Client (2), because I felt that this topic challenge me a lot.
I would like to share what I have learned during the session: In this session, I learned the most is role-play practice, Michael invited the attendants to be volunteer as coach and coachee. I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass as the followings:
Not everyone is coachable, and not every client is going to be the right client for you.
Putting policies up front, make sure that you go over each policy and procedure to clarify any questions or misunderstandings ahead of time.
High needs clients. If this client becomes too demanding, talk to them, make a time outside the coaching sessions to discuss how the coaching relationship is going and to re-emphasize the boundaries that you have set.
Using the Introductory Session, remember that the trial session (discovery session) is a two way street. It is a time when the client decides whether the coach is the best fit for them but it is also a time when the coach decides whether the client is someone they want to work with.
For practice session, the coachee was talking about the her marriage issue which did remind me about myself, it is so powerful.
This is a really helpful session while we are coaching someone who is a challenging client.
March 10, I retook AC110 the Challenging Client (2), because I felt that this topic challenge me a lot.
I would like to share what I have learned during the session: In this session, I learned the most is role-play practice, Michael invited the attendants to be volunteer as coach and coachee. I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass as the followings:
Not everyone is coachable, and not every client is going to be the right client for you.
Putting policies up front, make sure that you go over each policy and procedure to clarify any questions or misunderstandings ahead of time.
High needs clients. If this client becomes too demanding, talk to them, make a time outside the coaching sessions to discuss how the coaching relationship is going and to re-emphasize the boundaries that you have set.
Using the Introductory Session, remember that the trial session (discovery session) is a two way street. It is a time when the client decides whether the coach is the best fit for them but it is also a time when the coach decides whether the client is someone they want to work with.
For practice session, the coachee was talking about the her marriage issue which did remind me about myself, it is so powerful.
This is a really helpful session while we are coaching someone who is a challenging client.
2009/3/17
AC-105 Creating Action (2)-Reflection on this teleclass
Moderator-Kathy Munoz
March 10, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC105 Creating Action (2).
I like the sentence -” Nothing happens without Action!” Before creating an action plan, the coach will need to support the client through the process of discovery. Many clients think they know what they want, but once they begin to dig deeper, the client may discover that what they thought they wanted and what they truly want are two separate things.
In the course, we shared the wins and challenges. It has the suggestions about “ Creating Action Process”. Creating action requires a process. Process is important to be able to reach an objective. It moves both, the client and coach forward to achieve a desired goal by focusing thought in the right direction.
The following steps may support the client to discover and create an action plan that will move them forward:
1. Focus on Values
2. Enhancing strengths
3. Gathering resources to support the action
4. Goal-setting
5. Prevent slipping into old patterns
6. Creating an action plan
7. Positive affirmations
8. Focusing on solutions
9. Build on past successes
10. Create a list of encouraging role models
11. Enlist the help of a support team
Remember, “Nothing happens without Action!”
Creating action is about setting up a good solid structure for the purpose of moving your client
forward. As a coach, you can help your client achieve what they desire by simply creating action.
Thank you!
March 10, 6:00~7:00am EDT, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC105 Creating Action (2).
I like the sentence -” Nothing happens without Action!” Before creating an action plan, the coach will need to support the client through the process of discovery. Many clients think they know what they want, but once they begin to dig deeper, the client may discover that what they thought they wanted and what they truly want are two separate things.
In the course, we shared the wins and challenges. It has the suggestions about “ Creating Action Process”. Creating action requires a process. Process is important to be able to reach an objective. It moves both, the client and coach forward to achieve a desired goal by focusing thought in the right direction.
The following steps may support the client to discover and create an action plan that will move them forward:
1. Focus on Values
2. Enhancing strengths
3. Gathering resources to support the action
4. Goal-setting
5. Prevent slipping into old patterns
6. Creating an action plan
7. Positive affirmations
8. Focusing on solutions
9. Build on past successes
10. Create a list of encouraging role models
11. Enlist the help of a support team
Remember, “Nothing happens without Action!”
Creating action is about setting up a good solid structure for the purpose of moving your client
forward. As a coach, you can help your client achieve what they desire by simply creating action.
Thank you!
2009/3/9
AC108 The ICA Coaching Process (4)-Reflection on this session
Moderator- Sherry Read
March 04, I attended the ICA Course AC108-Part 4, Coaching Process and I would like to share what I have learned during the session:
Just like our reading material said: Coaching uses a process of inquiry and personal discovery to build the client’s level of awareness and responsibility, as well as provide the client with structure, support and effective feedback. Essentially, coaching is a process of discovery, goal-setting and strategic action that leads to extraordinary outcomes.
I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass as the followings:Using one word to describe the “Coaching Process”: Partnership/Joy/Embracing/Journey/Curiosity/Knowledge/Sounding Board/Resource…etc, this is what the moderator asked during this session which did make me think a lot.
The ICA Coaching Process:
The Gap –
The Beginning –
Honeymoon Phase –
The Journey –
Peaks and Valleys –
The Quitting Zone –
The Goal –
UACs: Underlying Automatic Commitments
These are the commitments we have made in our lives that play in the background of everything we do. We may or may not be aware of them. Whatever a person is committed to, they will create, even if they are not consciously aware of that commitment. Finding out what beliefs or judgments tend to impede progress is what coaching effectively is all about.
A skilled coach is like a master craftsperson working on a
large project. Their real skill is not just in using tools, but in knowing what tool to use at each
stage of a process and as each eventuality arises.
March 04, I attended the ICA Course AC108-Part 4, Coaching Process and I would like to share what I have learned during the session:
Just like our reading material said: Coaching uses a process of inquiry and personal discovery to build the client’s level of awareness and responsibility, as well as provide the client with structure, support and effective feedback. Essentially, coaching is a process of discovery, goal-setting and strategic action that leads to extraordinary outcomes.
I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass as the followings:Using one word to describe the “Coaching Process”: Partnership/Joy/Embracing/Journey/Curiosity/Knowledge/Sounding Board/Resource…etc, this is what the moderator asked during this session which did make me think a lot.
The ICA Coaching Process:
The Gap –
The Beginning –
Honeymoon Phase –
The Journey –
Peaks and Valleys –
The Quitting Zone –
The Goal –
UACs: Underlying Automatic Commitments
These are the commitments we have made in our lives that play in the background of everything we do. We may or may not be aware of them. Whatever a person is committed to, they will create, even if they are not consciously aware of that commitment. Finding out what beliefs or judgments tend to impede progress is what coaching effectively is all about.
A skilled coach is like a master craftsperson working on a
large project. Their real skill is not just in using tools, but in knowing what tool to use at each
stage of a process and as each eventuality arises.
Reflection on Peer Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
Feb. 26, 2009, I had my fifth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and I would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “Emergency Issue Session”. In this session, I had an emergency issue about lay-off my crew due to the economic crisis.
I just want to say thank you, Faiza so much to be a company with me at that time which did give me a very powerful strength. I have been trough a very tough time in company recently, and it is so lucky to have Faiza to be a peer coach, especially at this moment, it did mean a lot more.
Really appreciated, my dear coach! This following are what Faiza, my peer coach wrote to me which I liked it a lot and would like to share with others:
“Personally I also found that during this time of my training with ICA, I was lucky to always have a peer coach when I most needed one. And it really made a great difference. As for your challenges right now, I have a very good feeling that they are happening because you are ready to learn new lessons that they are bringing. And I can already see that learning happening and first changes that it brings with it. Your self- awareness is well developed and you benefit from it greatly. And your kindness and concern for others as well as your wish to help them is a wonderful personality trait that you can truly be proud of. Not to say that we can always help everyone in our lives, but when it is right, you will be able to do it. And be proud of your self. And when it is not right (for whatever reason) you will be just able to release it and will feel good about it. This brings a lot of peace and harmony in the way how you feel about your self.
I love that this is all happening "in front of my eyes" and I can share it with you.”
What do you think, my friends? I really feel that I am lucky to have a good coach like Faiza. Thank you, my dear peer coach!
Feb. 26, 2009, I had my fifth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and I would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “Emergency Issue Session”. In this session, I had an emergency issue about lay-off my crew due to the economic crisis.
I just want to say thank you, Faiza so much to be a company with me at that time which did give me a very powerful strength. I have been trough a very tough time in company recently, and it is so lucky to have Faiza to be a peer coach, especially at this moment, it did mean a lot more.
Really appreciated, my dear coach! This following are what Faiza, my peer coach wrote to me which I liked it a lot and would like to share with others:
“Personally I also found that during this time of my training with ICA, I was lucky to always have a peer coach when I most needed one. And it really made a great difference. As for your challenges right now, I have a very good feeling that they are happening because you are ready to learn new lessons that they are bringing. And I can already see that learning happening and first changes that it brings with it. Your self- awareness is well developed and you benefit from it greatly. And your kindness and concern for others as well as your wish to help them is a wonderful personality trait that you can truly be proud of. Not to say that we can always help everyone in our lives, but when it is right, you will be able to do it. And be proud of your self. And when it is not right (for whatever reason) you will be just able to release it and will feel good about it. This brings a lot of peace and harmony in the way how you feel about your self.
I love that this is all happening "in front of my eyes" and I can share it with you.”
What do you think, my friends? I really feel that I am lucky to have a good coach like Faiza. Thank you, my dear peer coach!
AC-104 Goal Setting (4) - Reflection
Moderator-Bill Turpin
Feb. 24, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC104 Goal Setting (4).
I am really touched by the sentence -” We support our clients in creating value-based goals!” Value-based goals, this is what I searched for a while- how come a goal can’t be lasting.
As a coach, we support our clients in creating value-based goals. Before any goals can be set,
the client must first determine what their values are. Orienting the goals around the client’s values will make them compelling and will pull the client forward. Most of us live full and busy lives with competing demands for our precious time and energy. We need to prioritize so that only those things that really matter get our full energy. By creating goals based on our values we ensure the optimal return on our investment of time and energy, because our success will be in the areas that matter the most to us.
Coach induce the client to the “simple structure” together for goal setting and achieving.
There is an acronym that is often used to describe powerful goals which helps us to evaluate whether we have thoroughly thought them through. It is S.M.A.R.T and stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound. The most important strategy for making sure goals are met is to make sure that they are aligned with values.
In the reading material, it has the suggestions about “Goal Achievement Process”. It has seven steps.
1. Set the Goal.
2. List the resources needed to achieve it.
3. List the assets you currently have to make it possible.
4. Identify any blocks or obstacles standing in the way.
5. List any significant milestones to reach along the way (with dates).
6. List the actions required to meet the first milestone by a given date.
7. Build in a reward, or celebration for when you do reach the goal.
Remember, goals are the client’s values, dreams and words.
The client owns them. Coaches need to use any goal setting tools or strategies in a way that empowers the client and allows the client to alter the process so that it works best for them.
This course did help me a lot, not only the tool about goal setting to help our clients, but also the attitude to the goal setting and goal achieving.
Thank you!
Feb. 24, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC104 Goal Setting (4).
I am really touched by the sentence -” We support our clients in creating value-based goals!” Value-based goals, this is what I searched for a while- how come a goal can’t be lasting.
As a coach, we support our clients in creating value-based goals. Before any goals can be set,
the client must first determine what their values are. Orienting the goals around the client’s values will make them compelling and will pull the client forward. Most of us live full and busy lives with competing demands for our precious time and energy. We need to prioritize so that only those things that really matter get our full energy. By creating goals based on our values we ensure the optimal return on our investment of time and energy, because our success will be in the areas that matter the most to us.
Coach induce the client to the “simple structure” together for goal setting and achieving.
There is an acronym that is often used to describe powerful goals which helps us to evaluate whether we have thoroughly thought them through. It is S.M.A.R.T and stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time bound. The most important strategy for making sure goals are met is to make sure that they are aligned with values.
In the reading material, it has the suggestions about “Goal Achievement Process”. It has seven steps.
1. Set the Goal.
2. List the resources needed to achieve it.
3. List the assets you currently have to make it possible.
4. Identify any blocks or obstacles standing in the way.
5. List any significant milestones to reach along the way (with dates).
6. List the actions required to meet the first milestone by a given date.
7. Build in a reward, or celebration for when you do reach the goal.
Remember, goals are the client’s values, dreams and words.
The client owns them. Coaches need to use any goal setting tools or strategies in a way that empowers the client and allows the client to alter the process so that it works best for them.
This course did help me a lot, not only the tool about goal setting to help our clients, but also the attitude to the goal setting and goal achieving.
Thank you!
2009/2/24
FC-107 Power Listening 2 - Refection on this course
Moderator- Michael Monvi
Today, I attended the ICA Course FC-107 Power Listening 2 and I would like to share what I have learned during the session with you:
Just like our reading material said: “A little-recognized value of listening and inquiring relates to the realization that in human relationships, it is frequently not what the facts are, but what people think the facts are, which is truly important. There is benefit in learning what someone else's concept of the reality of the situation is.” (Bryan Bell)
In the process, Michael, took the role play technology to run this session and have us to find out the powerful strength about powerful listening. Before the ending, Michael pretended to be a client and told us about his issue, and asked us to give him a question for break through. I learned a lot from this session by just listening.
If a client is unable to move beyond a past issue, injury or disappointment, this may be a sign that they are in need of counseling or therapy, rather than coaching (or in addition to coaching). If they can’t move to a future focus, then they should be referred on to an appropriately qualified therapist.
Use your intuition: Listen from the heart and pick up on all communication. Share with the client things you are sensing and feeling. Intuition is a very powerful coaching tool. If the coach is sensing something the client is saying, it is best to share it with them.
Today, I attended the ICA Course FC-107 Power Listening 2 and I would like to share what I have learned during the session with you:
Just like our reading material said: “A little-recognized value of listening and inquiring relates to the realization that in human relationships, it is frequently not what the facts are, but what people think the facts are, which is truly important. There is benefit in learning what someone else's concept of the reality of the situation is.” (Bryan Bell)
In the process, Michael, took the role play technology to run this session and have us to find out the powerful strength about powerful listening. Before the ending, Michael pretended to be a client and told us about his issue, and asked us to give him a question for break through. I learned a lot from this session by just listening.
If a client is unable to move beyond a past issue, injury or disappointment, this may be a sign that they are in need of counseling or therapy, rather than coaching (or in addition to coaching). If they can’t move to a future focus, then they should be referred on to an appropriately qualified therapist.
Use your intuition: Listen from the heart and pick up on all communication. Share with the client things you are sensing and feeling. Intuition is a very powerful coaching tool. If the coach is sensing something the client is saying, it is best to share it with them.
2009/2/19
Reflection on Peer Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza IkedaFeb. 18, 2009, I had my fourth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “Be Presence Session”.
In this session, we had a role play practice again, but this time we did the reverse role play way-I played to be my wife and Faiza to be me. This time of the process is tougher that last time we did, due to be someone else, it is harder to pretend. The coaching process:
a. Centering : Again, Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk always. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching session.
Ask question: Sharing your wins to me about the past week?
1. An inner dialog with my wife
2. Exercise more with running 3km/per week/per time
3. A list about how good of my wife
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. Go forwarder, we practiced a reverse role-play session. Faiza played to be me, and I played to be my wife, we had a special circumstance to do the conversation practice, it is about the different opinion about my son’s education. I have been through a tough experience for this reverse role play session (even during the process, I found out that I didn’t know my wife well as what I thought). There is a new skill named “Reiki-Energy Work” which Faiza practiced for 10 years already. It is very helpful for inner dialog learning, if we have strong intention on something, then we can have power to connect it with.
c. My Coach, Faiza shared me with her experience about inner dialog practice and what it works to her. This is very helpful to me.
Ending with some actions:
Read the list which I have done regarding how good of my wife:
1. Make money for our family
2. Stimulate me for outdoor activities.
3. Give me a good kid and wonderful family life.
4. Bring me to her family, we had a lot of good time with her family such as her parent, brothers, and sisters.
5. Do some more challenges which I can handle to upgrade myself.
In this session, we had a role play practice again, but this time we did the reverse role play way-I played to be my wife and Faiza to be me. This time of the process is tougher that last time we did, due to be someone else, it is harder to pretend. The coaching process:
a. Centering : Again, Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk always. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching session.
Ask question: Sharing your wins to me about the past week?
1. An inner dialog with my wife
2. Exercise more with running 3km/per week/per time
3. A list about how good of my wife
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. Go forwarder, we practiced a reverse role-play session. Faiza played to be me, and I played to be my wife, we had a special circumstance to do the conversation practice, it is about the different opinion about my son’s education. I have been through a tough experience for this reverse role play session (even during the process, I found out that I didn’t know my wife well as what I thought). There is a new skill named “Reiki-Energy Work” which Faiza practiced for 10 years already. It is very helpful for inner dialog learning, if we have strong intention on something, then we can have power to connect it with.
c. My Coach, Faiza shared me with her experience about inner dialog practice and what it works to her. This is very helpful to me.
Ending with some actions:
Read the list which I have done regarding how good of my wife:
1. Make money for our family
2. Stimulate me for outdoor activities.
3. Give me a good kid and wonderful family life.
4. Bring me to her family, we had a lot of good time with her family such as her parent, brothers, and sisters.
5. Do some more challenges which I can handle to upgrade myself.
2009/2/16
AC202 Powerful Questions (2) - Reflection
Moderator-Bill Turpin
Feb. 12, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions (2).
I am really touched by the sentence -” Powerful Q comes, when we are fully present there!”
A coach will frequently ask questions that help the client align their topic of discussion to their
overall values, visions and dreams. These questions are essential, because one of our primary
roles as coaches is to assist clients to live in alignment with their own values and to work towards
major goals. The client, living in the midst of their own whirlwind of life experiences, will often find it difficult to focus on their values and goals. This is when we, as coaches, can help them to
realign by asking them questions that remind them of the bigger picture.
Some examples of aligning questions from our reading material would be:
● “What would your life be like if it were exactly the way you wanted it to be? What is
holding you back?”
● “If you won the lottery what would you do?”
● “If you did know, what would it look like?”
● “Who is in control here?”
● “If I had a magic wand and could grant you any wish, what would it be?”
● How does what we are talking about align with your values?
Questioning is really just an extension of listening. Questioning only occurs in response to
what the client is saying.“Questions are tools that need to be used strategically and purposefully by the coach to support the client on their learning journey, but each client’s journey will be unique.
The coach’s overall goal is to move the dialogue in a direction, which assists the client to meet his or her goals.” It expressed all what I had learned from this course.
Feb. 12, I took the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions (2).
I am really touched by the sentence -” Powerful Q comes, when we are fully present there!”
A coach will frequently ask questions that help the client align their topic of discussion to their
overall values, visions and dreams. These questions are essential, because one of our primary
roles as coaches is to assist clients to live in alignment with their own values and to work towards
major goals. The client, living in the midst of their own whirlwind of life experiences, will often find it difficult to focus on their values and goals. This is when we, as coaches, can help them to
realign by asking them questions that remind them of the bigger picture.
Some examples of aligning questions from our reading material would be:
● “What would your life be like if it were exactly the way you wanted it to be? What is
holding you back?”
● “If you won the lottery what would you do?”
● “If you did know, what would it look like?”
● “Who is in control here?”
● “If I had a magic wand and could grant you any wish, what would it be?”
● How does what we are talking about align with your values?
Questioning is really just an extension of listening. Questioning only occurs in response to
what the client is saying.“Questions are tools that need to be used strategically and purposefully by the coach to support the client on their learning journey, but each client’s journey will be unique.
The coach’s overall goal is to move the dialogue in a direction, which assists the client to meet his or her goals.” It expressed all what I had learned from this course.
AC202 Powerful Questions (3) - Reflection
Moderator-Joanne Waldman
Feb. 11, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions (3).
As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
What is the definition of powerful questions?
1. Is that the Q that take your breath away?
2. Is that the Q that stop you in traps?
3. Is that the Q that open the possibility for you?
4. Is that the Q verify who you are?
5. Is that the Q that make you thinking out of box?
During the courses, we had some simulation practices:
a. A client has no idea how to grow up?
b. A client wants to have a healthy lifestyle.
c. How if someone would like to manage their time more effectively?
What would be the powerful questions for these particular situations? If you want someone to reflect further on a problem or view it from a different angle, some of the most powerful questions to ask are the following:
● “How can I best coach you in this situation?”
● “What would be the best question to ask you right now to help you think clearly about this situation?”
● “What is the lesson here?”
● “What do you need to do now?”
If you think someone is holding back through fear or insecurity, some of the best questions to ask are the following:
● “What are you resisting?”
● “Have you been here before?”
● “Are you holding on to something you need to let go of perhaps?”
● “What is the worst thing that could happen? Can you live with that?”
● “What are you not telling me?”
Acknowledge ourselves, we must have confidence to just be there to be company with the client for their journey.
Feb. 11, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions (3).
As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
What is the definition of powerful questions?
1. Is that the Q that take your breath away?
2. Is that the Q that stop you in traps?
3. Is that the Q that open the possibility for you?
4. Is that the Q verify who you are?
5. Is that the Q that make you thinking out of box?
During the courses, we had some simulation practices:
a. A client has no idea how to grow up?
b. A client wants to have a healthy lifestyle.
c. How if someone would like to manage their time more effectively?
What would be the powerful questions for these particular situations? If you want someone to reflect further on a problem or view it from a different angle, some of the most powerful questions to ask are the following:
● “How can I best coach you in this situation?”
● “What would be the best question to ask you right now to help you think clearly about this situation?”
● “What is the lesson here?”
● “What do you need to do now?”
If you think someone is holding back through fear or insecurity, some of the best questions to ask are the following:
● “What are you resisting?”
● “Have you been here before?”
● “Are you holding on to something you need to let go of perhaps?”
● “What is the worst thing that could happen? Can you live with that?”
● “What are you not telling me?”
Acknowledge ourselves, we must have confidence to just be there to be company with the client for their journey.
Peer Coaching: Reflection on Learning Buddy Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
Feb. 12, 2009, I had my third peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record.
I named it as “Role Play Practice Session”. In this session, we practiced a role play practice-I have been through a very good experience for role play (even during the process, I have some tough time in thinking of the conversation).
The coaching process:
a. Centering : Again, Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk always. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching session. Ask question: Sharing your wins to me?
1. The acronym of my Chinese name, Jen-Yung: Just Empower “Never say never” strength -Yield to an Universal and Natural Guidance.
2. Do something small more to be a better me.
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. Go forwarder, we practiced a role-play session. Faiza played to be my wife, and we had a special circumstance to do the conversation practice. I have been through a very good experience for role play (even during the process, I have some tough time in thinking of the conversation). There was a sentence from Faiza which made me in deeper thinking about my tough situation, “you knew me very well right at the beginning.”
c. My Coach, Faiza shared me with a article from Inspiring Learning Organization- Standards of Presence.
Ending with some actions:
a. Do something small to be better me.
b. Run a conversation with myself (Role-Play) again in deeper. Thinking a particular situation, ask question, and have the conversation inside my mind to see what will be? Let the emotional and experience to flow free themselves.
Feb. 12, 2009, I had my third peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record.
I named it as “Role Play Practice Session”. In this session, we practiced a role play practice-I have been through a very good experience for role play (even during the process, I have some tough time in thinking of the conversation).
The coaching process:
a. Centering : Again, Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk always. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching session. Ask question: Sharing your wins to me?
1. The acronym of my Chinese name, Jen-Yung: Just Empower “Never say never” strength -Yield to an Universal and Natural Guidance.
2. Do something small more to be a better me.
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. Go forwarder, we practiced a role-play session. Faiza played to be my wife, and we had a special circumstance to do the conversation practice. I have been through a very good experience for role play (even during the process, I have some tough time in thinking of the conversation). There was a sentence from Faiza which made me in deeper thinking about my tough situation, “you knew me very well right at the beginning.”
c. My Coach, Faiza shared me with a article from Inspiring Learning Organization- Standards of Presence.
Ending with some actions:
a. Do something small to be better me.
b. Run a conversation with myself (Role-Play) again in deeper. Thinking a particular situation, ask question, and have the conversation inside my mind to see what will be? Let the emotional and experience to flow free themselves.
2009/2/12
AC109 Confidence (3)-Reflection on this session
Moderator-Michael Moniv
Yesterday, I took a teleclass course, AC109 Confidence (3), I really got inspired about the sentence: “ Simple question may change a lot” which is shared by Michael.
One of the main things that holds a new coach back and sometimes a more seasoned coach, is confidence. Perhaps we fear we do not have anything of value to offer. This could not be further from the truth. We all have something to offer our clients based upon our life experiences and because of simply who we are.
Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by Re-framing their perspective.Is it matter to me some years later? This is a very powerful question which we can ask ourselves to shift perspective while we don’t fell confidence, just make focusing on the future.
Understanding your value: For most new coaches, one of the biggest blocks is doubt in oneself. We're usually worried that without being extensive in an area, we might not have done enough. Worse yet, we believe we will be called a fraud. Or what if, at some point in the session, we don't have an answer, or don’t know what to say? So here's the message for us: We have a lot to offer! Such as: Listening/Partnering in their success/a different perspective/our life experience… etc
Re-framing your personal perspective: How comfortable do you feel five minutes before a coaching session? How do we feel if it doesn’t go as planned? Are we comfortable enough to invite ALL of our friends and colleagues to experience a coaching session with me? If we’re not free to coach, it’s probably because of our own Perspective. For example, if we feel that people have serious problems, which MUST be fixed, we might feel some pressure, or reluctance, even concern as a coach to move forward. Just as we support our clients to distinguish a Perspective, and Re-Frame it, we should do the same. we will know when we have made the mental shift, because we will feel complete freedom to coach anyone.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Michael and all attendants' input during the course.
Yesterday, I took a teleclass course, AC109 Confidence (3), I really got inspired about the sentence: “ Simple question may change a lot” which is shared by Michael.
One of the main things that holds a new coach back and sometimes a more seasoned coach, is confidence. Perhaps we fear we do not have anything of value to offer. This could not be further from the truth. We all have something to offer our clients based upon our life experiences and because of simply who we are.
Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by Re-framing their perspective.Is it matter to me some years later? This is a very powerful question which we can ask ourselves to shift perspective while we don’t fell confidence, just make focusing on the future.
Understanding your value: For most new coaches, one of the biggest blocks is doubt in oneself. We're usually worried that without being extensive in an area, we might not have done enough. Worse yet, we believe we will be called a fraud. Or what if, at some point in the session, we don't have an answer, or don’t know what to say? So here's the message for us: We have a lot to offer! Such as: Listening/Partnering in their success/a different perspective/our life experience… etc
Re-framing your personal perspective: How comfortable do you feel five minutes before a coaching session? How do we feel if it doesn’t go as planned? Are we comfortable enough to invite ALL of our friends and colleagues to experience a coaching session with me? If we’re not free to coach, it’s probably because of our own Perspective. For example, if we feel that people have serious problems, which MUST be fixed, we might feel some pressure, or reluctance, even concern as a coach to move forward. Just as we support our clients to distinguish a Perspective, and Re-Frame it, we should do the same. we will know when we have made the mental shift, because we will feel complete freedom to coach anyone.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Michael and all attendants' input during the course.
2009/2/11
AC110 The Challenging Client-Relection on this course
Moderator- Sherry Read
The day before yesterday, Feb. 09, I attended the ICA Course AC110 The Challenging Client and I would like to share what I have learned during the session: Just like our reading material said: Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all our clients were always excited, willing and able to take action? What a perfect world it would be if all we had to do was create a space for them to be their best so they could just step right into action and wow, be on their way.
I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass into the followings:
Not everyone is coachable, I am so impressed about this sentence. As a coach, be ready to support your clients to discover what would be the best idea for them right now; even if that means that you need to stop the coaching sessions.
Not every client is going to be the right client for you, if you are coaching someone who simply is not a good fit, support him or her to find another coach. Coaching someone who is not a good fit for your style of coaching can be draining.
Putting policies up front! Make sure that you go over each policy and procedure to clarify any questions or misunderstandings ahead of time. This will save a lot of time. When we are done reviewing the business structure with our clients, they should know what is expected of them as well as understand how we manage our coaching practice.
When something is not right:
When something happens in the coaching session that doesn’t feel right, address it immediately. It doesn’t matter if you cannot exactly identify what happened. Instead, just share with the client what you perceive and communicate that something doesn’t feel right.
High needs clients
If this client becomes too demanding, talk to them. Make a time outside the coaching sessions to discuss how the coaching relationship is going and to re-emphasize the boundaries that you have set.
Using the Introductory Session
Remember that the trial session is a two way street. It is a time when the client decides whether the coach is the best fit for them but it is also a time when the coach decides whether the client is someone they want to work with.
What I have thought a lot for the following questions:
1. Think of one situation where you are being challenged right now. How can you manage this situation to make a positive experience for all involved?
2. None of us are perfect, think of a time when you have been the challenging client or person. How did you feel and why did you react the way you did? What insight did you learn from this experience?
This is a really helpful session while we are coaching someone who is a challenging client.
The day before yesterday, Feb. 09, I attended the ICA Course AC110 The Challenging Client and I would like to share what I have learned during the session: Just like our reading material said: Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all our clients were always excited, willing and able to take action? What a perfect world it would be if all we had to do was create a space for them to be their best so they could just step right into action and wow, be on their way.
I would like to share what I have learned from this teleclass into the followings:
Not everyone is coachable, I am so impressed about this sentence. As a coach, be ready to support your clients to discover what would be the best idea for them right now; even if that means that you need to stop the coaching sessions.
Not every client is going to be the right client for you, if you are coaching someone who simply is not a good fit, support him or her to find another coach. Coaching someone who is not a good fit for your style of coaching can be draining.
Putting policies up front! Make sure that you go over each policy and procedure to clarify any questions or misunderstandings ahead of time. This will save a lot of time. When we are done reviewing the business structure with our clients, they should know what is expected of them as well as understand how we manage our coaching practice.
When something is not right:
When something happens in the coaching session that doesn’t feel right, address it immediately. It doesn’t matter if you cannot exactly identify what happened. Instead, just share with the client what you perceive and communicate that something doesn’t feel right.
High needs clients
If this client becomes too demanding, talk to them. Make a time outside the coaching sessions to discuss how the coaching relationship is going and to re-emphasize the boundaries that you have set.
Using the Introductory Session
Remember that the trial session is a two way street. It is a time when the client decides whether the coach is the best fit for them but it is also a time when the coach decides whether the client is someone they want to work with.
What I have thought a lot for the following questions:
1. Think of one situation where you are being challenged right now. How can you manage this situation to make a positive experience for all involved?
2. None of us are perfect, think of a time when you have been the challenging client or person. How did you feel and why did you react the way you did? What insight did you learn from this experience?
This is a really helpful session while we are coaching someone who is a challenging client.
2009/2/9
Peer Coaching: Reflection on Learning Buddy Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
Feb. 04, 2009, I had a second peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “a touched processing”. In this session, we followed and reviewed all what have discussed last time.
The coaching process:
a. Concentration/Centralization (Centering): Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk like last time. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching. Ask question: Sharing your wins to me?
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. During this process, I was touched through Faiza’s speech of my statement last time about “the purpose of my life”, this is so unique and different experience to hear my personal purpose of life through the other person, thank you so much for doing so, Faiza.
c. Having 20 minutes, we were working together to find out “my name’s meaning, Jen-Yung” regarding to Coaching. Through this process, we may find my coaching model for this professional coaching. Jen -Yung: Just empower a person to have “Never say never” strength-Yield to universal and natural guidance
Ending with some questions:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session?
Homework: Run a conversation with myself (Role-Play).
Thinking a particular situation, ask question, and have the conversation inside my mind to see what will be? Let the emotional and experience to flow free themselves.
Feb. 04, 2009, I had a second peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record. I named it as “a touched processing”. In this session, we followed and reviewed all what have discussed last time.
The coaching process:
a. Concentration/Centralization (Centering): Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk like last time. This is a very good skill and comforting time for me to make me be more concentrated and relaxed for this coaching. Ask question: Sharing your wins to me?
b. Review what we have discussed last time to facilitate me in deep thinking and remind me what I have promised to myself. During this process, I was touched through Faiza’s speech of my statement last time about “the purpose of my life”, this is so unique and different experience to hear my personal purpose of life through the other person, thank you so much for doing so, Faiza.
c. Having 20 minutes, we were working together to find out “my name’s meaning, Jen-Yung” regarding to Coaching. Through this process, we may find my coaching model for this professional coaching. Jen -Yung: Just empower a person to have “Never say never” strength-Yield to universal and natural guidance
Ending with some questions:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session?
Homework: Run a conversation with myself (Role-Play).
Thinking a particular situation, ask question, and have the conversation inside my mind to see what will be? Let the emotional and experience to flow free themselves.
AC202 Powerful Questions 1- Reflection of this session
Moderator-Bill Turpin
Feb. 05, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions. Because this topic itself attract me for a long time, I was so excited about it.
What is a role of Questions as a coach? Make a connection, as a coach we must balance the powerful questions and powerful listening.
A question can be a coach’s most valuable tool in assisting clients to think clearly and solve problems. Questions help in the problem-solving process. They “dig in” deeper and open up our thoughts to explore ideas even further. Thinking critically involves a process of reason and discernment through a set of questions. This question-and-answer methodology for discerning truth is nothing new. It is commonly referred to as the "Socratic method" and derives its name from the ancient Greek philosopher, Socrates.
During the courses, we discussed the different kind of questions:
1. Lower and Higher Level Questions: Lower level questions are those that deal with simple application of facts, common knowledge, comprehension, and practical use. Higher-level questions are those requiring complex application such as analysis, synthesis, and evaluation skills. There is a conversation skill to use ORID methodology, O: Observation; R: Reflective; I: Interpretive; D: Decisional. Lower level questions are more like O type questions; Higher-level questions are those more like R & I questions.
2. Open and Closed Ended Questions: A closed ended question is one in which there are a limited number of acceptable answers, usually, “yes” or “no.” Examples of closed-ended questions are:
● “Did you have a good week?”
● “Did you do your fieldwork?”
Closed ended questions also have their place in coaching.
An open-ended question is one in which there are many acceptable answers thus providing an opportunity for the client to elaborate. Examples of open-ended questions are:
● “Tell me about your week?”
● “What was your experience with the fieldwork?”
3. Convincing and Curious Questions: convincing Q, providing us the source of Information; curious Q, providing the source for self expressing.
How can we make a safe environment to a client to answer? What is a authentic question? A truthful answer is very important, don’t manipulate or set a client up with questions. These questions give us a lot reflective thinking
Feb. 05, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC202 Powerful Questions. Because this topic itself attract me for a long time, I was so excited about it.
What is a role of Questions as a coach? Make a connection, as a coach we must balance the powerful questions and powerful listening.
A question can be a coach’s most valuable tool in assisting clients to think clearly and solve problems. Questions help in the problem-solving process. They “dig in” deeper and open up our thoughts to explore ideas even further. Thinking critically involves a process of reason and discernment through a set of questions. This question-and-answer methodology for discerning truth is nothing new. It is commonly referred to as the "Socratic method" and derives its name from the ancient Greek philosopher, Socrates.
During the courses, we discussed the different kind of questions:
1. Lower and Higher Level Questions: Lower level questions are those that deal with simple application of facts, common knowledge, comprehension, and practical use. Higher-level questions are those requiring complex application such as analysis, synthesis, and evaluation skills. There is a conversation skill to use ORID methodology, O: Observation; R: Reflective; I: Interpretive; D: Decisional. Lower level questions are more like O type questions; Higher-level questions are those more like R & I questions.
2. Open and Closed Ended Questions: A closed ended question is one in which there are a limited number of acceptable answers, usually, “yes” or “no.” Examples of closed-ended questions are:
● “Did you have a good week?”
● “Did you do your fieldwork?”
Closed ended questions also have their place in coaching.
An open-ended question is one in which there are many acceptable answers thus providing an opportunity for the client to elaborate. Examples of open-ended questions are:
● “Tell me about your week?”
● “What was your experience with the fieldwork?”
3. Convincing and Curious Questions: convincing Q, providing us the source of Information; curious Q, providing the source for self expressing.
How can we make a safe environment to a client to answer? What is a authentic question? A truthful answer is very important, don’t manipulate or set a client up with questions. These questions give us a lot reflective thinking
2009/2/6
Peer Coaching 2: Recording on Learning Buddy Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
I had my second peer coaching on Feb. 04, 2009 and would like to describe this coaching process a little as my personal record.
This coaching process:
Centering/Centralization:
a. Concentration/Centralization: Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk.
b. Asking wins after our last session, and facilitate me in deep thinking and reflect myself. She shared her record about my statement about my purpose of life which I talked last time. We reviewed the progress of my goal together and it is a proper pressure for me to growing.
c. We worked together to use my name Jen-Yung, to think about the possibility about using my name which can related to coaching. I really enjoyed this process.
Ending:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session? Again, I learned a lot through this session.
Thank you so much, Faiza!
I had my second peer coaching on Feb. 04, 2009 and would like to describe this coaching process a little as my personal record.
This coaching process:
Centering/Centralization:
a. Concentration/Centralization: Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk.
b. Asking wins after our last session, and facilitate me in deep thinking and reflect myself. She shared her record about my statement about my purpose of life which I talked last time. We reviewed the progress of my goal together and it is a proper pressure for me to growing.
c. We worked together to use my name Jen-Yung, to think about the possibility about using my name which can related to coaching. I really enjoyed this process.
Ending:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session? Again, I learned a lot through this session.
Thank you so much, Faiza!
FC101 What is Coaching? Part 1 (Introduction to Coaching)-Reflection on this session
Moderator- Sherry Read
Feb. 02, I took a teleclass course, What is Coaching? Part 1 (Introduction to Coaching 1)What is coaching, express in one to three words? Different answers come from all attendants:
1. Help people to find their possibilities
2. Enthusing
3. Great purpose of life
4. Empowering
5. Best friend
6. Partners…
What Coaching is Not?
As a relatively new profession, coaching is a methodology that draws on a range of other more traditional professions including psychology, business consulting, mentoring management theory and adult learning. However, coaching is a unique field and there are significant differences between coaching and these fields.
Coaching is not therapy, counselling or psychology. Coaching is often likened to consulting. However, there are distinct differences between these disciplines.
What is the difference between an Executive, Corporate or Business Coach?
It is based on the client's need and outcomes which they want.
Why companies hire coaches?
This is a good questions which the moderator gave to us in the end of this session.
Feb. 02, I took a teleclass course, What is Coaching? Part 1 (Introduction to Coaching 1)What is coaching, express in one to three words? Different answers come from all attendants:
1. Help people to find their possibilities
2. Enthusing
3. Great purpose of life
4. Empowering
5. Best friend
6. Partners…
What Coaching is Not?
As a relatively new profession, coaching is a methodology that draws on a range of other more traditional professions including psychology, business consulting, mentoring management theory and adult learning. However, coaching is a unique field and there are significant differences between coaching and these fields.
Coaching is not therapy, counselling or psychology. Coaching is often likened to consulting. However, there are distinct differences between these disciplines.
What is the difference between an Executive, Corporate or Business Coach?
It is based on the client's need and outcomes which they want.
Why companies hire coaches?
This is a good questions which the moderator gave to us in the end of this session.
AC211 Diversity (Cross Cultural Coaching)-Reflection on this course
Moderator-Angela Bird
Jan. 29, I took another teleclass course-AC 211, Diversity-Cross The Cultural Coaching
I am impressed by the researched that the moderator shared about summer camp. , there is a research that makes the kids to be different groups, and give them games to compete with each other group. After a wile, re-organize them to different teams, during the process to do the subtle observation about their interaction. From friends to competitor, from similarity to dis-similarity, how diversity flow among the kids.
Diversity is and should be a major interest and concern for most businesses and organizations today. Not only will we be faced with coaching clients of diverse backgrounds, but we will be challenged with coaching our clients to better understand as well as tap into the power of diversity.
Diversity brings with it many challenges. With diversity come differences. With differences comes the opportunity for conflict and misunderstanding. However, while it is important to be aware of difference and be flexible in our dealings with others, its important not to be overwhelmed by our differences. There are some basic ways that we can maintain respect for diversity while still making connections around our shared human experience and minimizing the opportunities for conflict or misunderstanding. In order to respect diversity, individuals and organizations need to understand and support the following ideas:
● Differences are viewed as strength.
● Individuals are free to achieve their potential.
● The complexity of diversity is valued.
● The work of all is appreciated.
● Communication takes place in a supportive manner.
● The rights of each of us, and all of us, are respected.
In the end, Angela give us some suggestion to read books about different cultures, the book” The World Is Flat” could be a good choice.
Jan. 29, I took another teleclass course-AC 211, Diversity-Cross The Cultural Coaching
I am impressed by the researched that the moderator shared about summer camp. , there is a research that makes the kids to be different groups, and give them games to compete with each other group. After a wile, re-organize them to different teams, during the process to do the subtle observation about their interaction. From friends to competitor, from similarity to dis-similarity, how diversity flow among the kids.
Diversity is and should be a major interest and concern for most businesses and organizations today. Not only will we be faced with coaching clients of diverse backgrounds, but we will be challenged with coaching our clients to better understand as well as tap into the power of diversity.
Diversity brings with it many challenges. With diversity come differences. With differences comes the opportunity for conflict and misunderstanding. However, while it is important to be aware of difference and be flexible in our dealings with others, its important not to be overwhelmed by our differences. There are some basic ways that we can maintain respect for diversity while still making connections around our shared human experience and minimizing the opportunities for conflict or misunderstanding. In order to respect diversity, individuals and organizations need to understand and support the following ideas:
● Differences are viewed as strength.
● Individuals are free to achieve their potential.
● The complexity of diversity is valued.
● The work of all is appreciated.
● Communication takes place in a supportive manner.
● The rights of each of us, and all of us, are respected.
In the end, Angela give us some suggestion to read books about different cultures, the book” The World Is Flat” could be a good choice.
2009/2/5
FC 103: EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK 1-Reflection on this teleclass
Moderator-Bill Turpin
Jan. 29, I got the chance to join the teleclass course-Effective Feedback 1, I was so excited. This is a very special and enjoyable experience.
Here is my refection on this course. What is difference between feedback and Opinion?
Feedback attracts, opinion attack. I liked this express very much.
Effective feedback creates a kind of awareness that makes a difference in how one sees things. It provides insight, opens thought and expands vision. How can we have a effective feedback to a client? The most important thing is we must know the client’s goal and value.
A common mistake coaches often make is to offer opinions rather than feedback. Opinions sometimes fall under the “false label” of feedback. When this happens, the client is disempowered and the coach-client relationship may suffer negative effects.
There are several questions which are very good during the course and they are from our read material:
1. How do you feel about receiving feedback?
2. What kind of feedback has made a difference for you?
3. What kind of feedback has left you disempowered?
4. What is the difference between feedback and criticism?
5. What is the purpose of feedback in a coaching situation?
We are naturally to give someone our opinion. We should be very careful about this nature.
Jan. 29, I got the chance to join the teleclass course-Effective Feedback 1, I was so excited. This is a very special and enjoyable experience.
Here is my refection on this course. What is difference between feedback and Opinion?
Feedback attracts, opinion attack. I liked this express very much.
Effective feedback creates a kind of awareness that makes a difference in how one sees things. It provides insight, opens thought and expands vision. How can we have a effective feedback to a client? The most important thing is we must know the client’s goal and value.
A common mistake coaches often make is to offer opinions rather than feedback. Opinions sometimes fall under the “false label” of feedback. When this happens, the client is disempowered and the coach-client relationship may suffer negative effects.
There are several questions which are very good during the course and they are from our read material:
1. How do you feel about receiving feedback?
2. What kind of feedback has made a difference for you?
3. What kind of feedback has left you disempowered?
4. What is the difference between feedback and criticism?
5. What is the purpose of feedback in a coaching situation?
We are naturally to give someone our opinion. We should be very careful about this nature.
2009/2/4
AC204: Re-Framing 3 - Reflection on the session
Moderator-Angela Bird
Jan. 28, I jumped to took a teleclass course-AC 204, Re-Framing 3? The moderator leaded it into 3 parts from my perspective:
1. Inviting attendants to share our opinions about perspective and Re-framing.
2. Asking questions to lead us to think about perspective and Re-framing.
3. Group coaching practice learning by asking questions.
This is really a facilitation session.
Re-framing supports the client by helping them see and understand that there is more than one way to look at a given situation. Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by reframing their perspective.
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern – get clear on - their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this reframing.
While we do the group coaching practice learning by asking questions, I really like this kind of processing to facilitate attendants to think the topic deeper and reflect ourselves. Here are the questions:
1. Please write down your issue.
2. What is your belief regarding to this issue?
3. What is your reward about thinking it this way? Find the positive intention behind.
4. What is the opposite belief to the issue?
5. If you have only one choice, what will you choose?
6. What would help you to change the perspective? (Pretend you know you need to change)
Went through this process, I got a very deep reflection on myself.
Jan. 28, I jumped to took a teleclass course-AC 204, Re-Framing 3? The moderator leaded it into 3 parts from my perspective:
1. Inviting attendants to share our opinions about perspective and Re-framing.
2. Asking questions to lead us to think about perspective and Re-framing.
3. Group coaching practice learning by asking questions.
This is really a facilitation session.
Re-framing supports the client by helping them see and understand that there is more than one way to look at a given situation. Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by reframing their perspective.
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern – get clear on - their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this reframing.
While we do the group coaching practice learning by asking questions, I really like this kind of processing to facilitate attendants to think the topic deeper and reflect ourselves. Here are the questions:
1. Please write down your issue.
2. What is your belief regarding to this issue?
3. What is your reward about thinking it this way? Find the positive intention behind.
4. What is the opposite belief to the issue?
5. If you have only one choice, what will you choose?
6. What would help you to change the perspective? (Pretend you know you need to change)
Went through this process, I got a very deep reflection on myself.
2009/2/3
FC102: PERSPECTIVE 1 - Reflection on the session
Moderator-Michael Moniv
Today, I took a teleclass course, Perspective part (1).
I really got inspired about the sentence: “Change our thinking, change our life” which is shared by one of attendants. Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances.
Perspective is so fundamental to how we all experience life. We could go as far as to say the entire International Coach Academy (ICA) program is based on it. The concept of perspective is so powerful and fundamental, you could coach from this alone, without using any of the other coaching techniques taught at ICA, and still be a powerful coach, explained and said from Michael.
Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by ReFraming their perspective.
During the course Michael asked us to think and share our thinking which some good questions as below:
1. When have you experienced a change in your perspective? What did it take for you to change your point of view?
2. How will helping your clients change their perspective make a difference in their lives?
Aware and Re-frame our own perspective is first step to learn before we can help the client.
Is it matter to me some years later? This is a very powerful question which we can ask ourselves to shift perspective while we meet the tough perspective.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Michael and all attendants' input during the course.
Today, I took a teleclass course, Perspective part (1).
I really got inspired about the sentence: “Change our thinking, change our life” which is shared by one of attendants. Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances.
Perspective is so fundamental to how we all experience life. We could go as far as to say the entire International Coach Academy (ICA) program is based on it. The concept of perspective is so powerful and fundamental, you could coach from this alone, without using any of the other coaching techniques taught at ICA, and still be a powerful coach, explained and said from Michael.
Consider how powerful a coach you will be when you can improve a client's life. Not by changing all their circumstances - which they are busily trying to do - but by ReFraming their perspective.
During the course Michael asked us to think and share our thinking which some good questions as below:
1. When have you experienced a change in your perspective? What did it take for you to change your point of view?
2. How will helping your clients change their perspective make a difference in their lives?
Aware and Re-frame our own perspective is first step to learn before we can help the client.
Is it matter to me some years later? This is a very powerful question which we can ask ourselves to shift perspective while we meet the tough perspective.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Michael and all attendants' input during the course.
2009/2/2
FC101: What is coaching 2 (Introduction to Coaching) - Reflection on the session
Moderator-Ronnie Noize
Jan. 23, I took a teleclass course, What is Coaching? (Introduction to Coaching)
The International Coaching Federation, defines coaching in the following way:
"Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce
fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve
their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.
Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual
client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the
client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach's job is to provide support to
enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.”
(ICF website, 2006)
I really like Miss Ronnie said: Coaching is all about the process and the client.
A coach offers many things to the client during the coaching process such as:
1. Support to discover the answers within him or her self
2. Clarification of values
3. Co-creation of a plan for how to achieve what the client really wants
4. A sounding board for new ideas
5. Support in making life changing decisions
6. Challenge to expand their views beyond their perceived limitations
7. Direction
8. Acknowledgement
9. Encouragement
10. Resource of information
Ronnie give us some very good questions during the course:
1. What’s the difference between Coaching and Therapy?
2. What is the difference between an Executive, Corporate or Business Coach?
I found my own answer through the course reading material and during the course processing. I enjoyed this course very much.
Jan. 23, I took a teleclass course, What is Coaching? (Introduction to Coaching)
The International Coaching Federation, defines coaching in the following way:
"Professional coaches provide an ongoing partnership designed to help clients produce
fulfilling results in their personal and professional lives. Coaches help people improve
their performances and enhance the quality of their lives.
Coaches are trained to listen, to observe and to customize their approach to individual
client needs. They seek to elicit solutions and strategies from the client; they believe the
client is naturally creative and resourceful. The coach's job is to provide support to
enhance the skills, resources, and creativity that the client already has.”
(ICF website, 2006)
I really like Miss Ronnie said: Coaching is all about the process and the client.
A coach offers many things to the client during the coaching process such as:
1. Support to discover the answers within him or her self
2. Clarification of values
3. Co-creation of a plan for how to achieve what the client really wants
4. A sounding board for new ideas
5. Support in making life changing decisions
6. Challenge to expand their views beyond their perceived limitations
7. Direction
8. Acknowledgement
9. Encouragement
10. Resource of information
Ronnie give us some very good questions during the course:
1. What’s the difference between Coaching and Therapy?
2. What is the difference between an Executive, Corporate or Business Coach?
I found my own answer through the course reading material and during the course processing. I enjoyed this course very much.
2009/1/23
FC102: PERSPECTIVE 2 - Reflection on the session
Moderator-Bill Turpin
Yesterday, I took a teleclass course, Perspective. I really got inspired about the sentence.
Are you ready for the secret of life? Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances. Perspective is a choice. You can choose a perspective for the special circumstance. Bill had said a lot of good inspired sentence to all of us which I was touched.
Perspective is a point of view which plays a fundamental part in any coaching session. In fact, it is in life itself. It is "a way of looking at, or interpreting, a particular situation."
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this process, Re-framing.
Bill left us some good questions which we should find out:
1. What is a disempowering perspective you have been using lately? Can you re-frame it?
2. Pick an area of your life where a problem has persisted for some time. Discern the perspective, and re-frame it.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Bill and all attendants.
Yesterday, I took a teleclass course, Perspective. I really got inspired about the sentence.
Are you ready for the secret of life? Your perspective determines your experience in life, not your circumstances. Perspective is a choice. You can choose a perspective for the special circumstance. Bill had said a lot of good inspired sentence to all of us which I was touched.
Perspective is a point of view which plays a fundamental part in any coaching session. In fact, it is in life itself. It is "a way of looking at, or interpreting, a particular situation."
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this process, Re-framing.
Bill left us some good questions which we should find out:
1. What is a disempowering perspective you have been using lately? Can you re-frame it?
2. Pick an area of your life where a problem has persisted for some time. Discern the perspective, and re-frame it.
I enjoyed this session very much, thank you so much, Bill and all attendants.
2009/1/22
FC-105-Getting Started 2 - Reflection on Course
Moderator-Angela Wahl
Today, I took a teleclass course, "FC-105 Getting Started 2" with ICA.It followed to the structure of FC-105 Getting Started 1" process, and what I learned most is Angela mentioned that someone coach will start at a session called "design and discovering session" before getting started. In this session, we figure the structure out with the client, included what is coaching really, how the process will be, how long per session and when…etc.
Acknowledge experience sharing, I found out this process can build the confidence up. During the sharing from other participants, I was getting much clearer about how to getting started.
There are several questions which the participants brought out such as:
1. private issue, how can we cover or protect ourselves from legal issue, have an agreement?
2. Which special field should we start? life coaching, business coaching? or... all in one together?
3. Design and Discovering session? Does it work? What would be your own coaching policy?
Again, all powerful questions make me reflected and all insight shared from participants are very valuable to me.I have learned a lot during this participation and my forward action to this is just getting started to my prospective client.
Today, I took a teleclass course, "FC-105 Getting Started 2" with ICA.It followed to the structure of FC-105 Getting Started 1" process, and what I learned most is Angela mentioned that someone coach will start at a session called "design and discovering session" before getting started. In this session, we figure the structure out with the client, included what is coaching really, how the process will be, how long per session and when…etc.
Acknowledge experience sharing, I found out this process can build the confidence up. During the sharing from other participants, I was getting much clearer about how to getting started.
There are several questions which the participants brought out such as:
1. private issue, how can we cover or protect ourselves from legal issue, have an agreement?
2. Which special field should we start? life coaching, business coaching? or... all in one together?
3. Design and Discovering session? Does it work? What would be your own coaching policy?
Again, all powerful questions make me reflected and all insight shared from participants are very valuable to me.I have learned a lot during this participation and my forward action to this is just getting started to my prospective client.
Peer Coaching: Recording on Learning Buddy Coaching
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
I had a peer coaching and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record.
I named it as “Getting Started”. We had a design and discovering session before getting started. In this session, we figured the structure out, included how the process will be, how long and what time…etc.
The coaching process:
1. Pre-preparation (pre-work):
Faiza is very professional and sent me a welcome package (mail) which included a welcome to coaching letter to ask me to write down what I would like to get out of our coaching and two attachments (Wheel of Life Balance and Take the Free RHETI and QUEST Sampler test). The wheel of life balance makes me to review my life, what is the priority in my life. Take the Free RHETI and QUEST Sampler test, this procedure makes me get more understanding of myself. It is really helpful to me during the conversation with Faiza.
2. The process:
a. Concentration/Centralization: Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk.
b. Asking questions to facilitate me in deep thinking and reflect myself. What, how and when do I want to achieve about the goals which I mentioned to her previously.
c. Having 15 minutes, just talk about “the purpose of my life”.
3. Ending:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session?
I really enjoy this session and thank you so much, Faiza!
I had a peer coaching and would like to describe this coaching process a little for my personal record.
I named it as “Getting Started”. We had a design and discovering session before getting started. In this session, we figured the structure out, included how the process will be, how long and what time…etc.
The coaching process:
1. Pre-preparation (pre-work):
Faiza is very professional and sent me a welcome package (mail) which included a welcome to coaching letter to ask me to write down what I would like to get out of our coaching and two attachments (Wheel of Life Balance and Take the Free RHETI and QUEST Sampler test). The wheel of life balance makes me to review my life, what is the priority in my life. Take the Free RHETI and QUEST Sampler test, this procedure makes me get more understanding of myself. It is really helpful to me during the conversation with Faiza.
2. The process:
a. Concentration/Centralization: Faiza invited me to do deep breath together with her and comfort me to relax myself and feel to have a very safe environment to talk.
b. Asking questions to facilitate me in deep thinking and reflect myself. What, how and when do I want to achieve about the goals which I mentioned to her previously.
c. Having 15 minutes, just talk about “the purpose of my life”.
3. Ending:
a. What do I want to focus on improving and next time, how should we measure it to see the progress?
b. What do I take away through this session?
I really enjoy this session and thank you so much, Faiza!
2009/1/21
FC-107 Power Listening 1 - Refection on this course
Moderator- Sherry Read
The day before yesterday, I attended the ICA Course FC-107 Power Listening 1 , and I would like to share what I have learned during the session with you:
Just like our reading material said: Coaching is a different type of conversation than those we have on a day to day basis. When coaching, the coach is listening intently to what the client is saying and feeling. It is not a two-way conversation as such. As coaches, listening is one of the most vital services we can provide. Listen for subtle changes in voice, avoidance of questions or a change in subject. If a client starts to get aggravated or angry, you are most likely touching on something. Very gently, ask the client more questions. Let the clientknow what you are really hearing, and ask if there is something more they want to say about it.
In the process, I found out the powerful strength about Appreciative Inquiry (AI) technology, Sherry asked several questions which did make me reflect on it a lot. Questions such as:
1. “I am hearing you said X, can you tell me some more about that?”
2. Listening attentively, what has to listen to? How to let the client think that coach listens
attentively wholeheartedly?
3. What does the "listening" mean to you?
4. Listening attentively in the process, how to us "being silent”? How has to practice
“ being silent”?
5. How doesn't have the manner which judges to listen attentively?
6. How to listen from the heart and pick up on all communication?
What do you think it means to “listen from the heart”?
7. With in the middle of the telephone coaching process, how many proportions can use
“silence”?
8. How can we be possible to know ourselves becomes a better listener?
What I have learned:
Being empathetic and non-judgemental: When we value the client and accept the client's feelings, we will be able to empathize more, and to offer them the gift of being heard.
There is a homework from Sherry:
1. Thank and practice a method to enhance the skill of listening attentively.
The day before yesterday, I attended the ICA Course FC-107 Power Listening 1 , and I would like to share what I have learned during the session with you:
Just like our reading material said: Coaching is a different type of conversation than those we have on a day to day basis. When coaching, the coach is listening intently to what the client is saying and feeling. It is not a two-way conversation as such. As coaches, listening is one of the most vital services we can provide. Listen for subtle changes in voice, avoidance of questions or a change in subject. If a client starts to get aggravated or angry, you are most likely touching on something. Very gently, ask the client more questions. Let the clientknow what you are really hearing, and ask if there is something more they want to say about it.
In the process, I found out the powerful strength about Appreciative Inquiry (AI) technology, Sherry asked several questions which did make me reflect on it a lot. Questions such as:
1. “I am hearing you said X, can you tell me some more about that?”
2. Listening attentively, what has to listen to? How to let the client think that coach listens
attentively wholeheartedly?
3. What does the "listening" mean to you?
4. Listening attentively in the process, how to us "being silent”? How has to practice
“ being silent”?
5. How doesn't have the manner which judges to listen attentively?
6. How to listen from the heart and pick up on all communication?
What do you think it means to “listen from the heart”?
7. With in the middle of the telephone coaching process, how many proportions can use
“silence”?
8. How can we be possible to know ourselves becomes a better listener?
What I have learned:
Being empathetic and non-judgemental: When we value the client and accept the client's feelings, we will be able to empathize more, and to offer them the gift of being heard.
There is a homework from Sherry:
1. Thank and practice a method to enhance the skill of listening attentively.
2009/1/19
Reflection on The Gathering of Coaching CoP , Taipei
今天我們台北的教練(Coaching)實務學習社群，在一個天氣好的冬天午後，一個美好的地方-跳舞咖啡廳，分享對教練的熱情及學習心得。聽著別人的分享，過程中竟然有著好多的自我探索及驚奇，令人興奮莫名! “要有覺察力，轉化成行動”，教練自己一定要先有這樣的能力，好棒好棒的一個體悟及分享，來自資深教練 - 曾郁卿 Chrissie。 另有一個關於價值觀-尊重的分享故事來自Sandy- 逸華身心靈成長中心，讓我有好深的感觸，在此跟各位分享: 安東尼‧羅賓，是一個於 25歲，即成為一個相當出名及成功的講師兼訓練師，當年認識一位37 歲的離婚單親媽媽，談及婚嫁，其週遭的人，依一般世俗的眼光皆感困惑，加以勸戒，安東尼回答: “成功的人，通常都會做失敗的人不會做的事”。 婚後，一年間，他們之間也開始有了爭吵，現在，變成安東尼備感困惑了，婚前，價值觀的Check list 顯現彼此是如此的契合，為何還是會爭吵不斷呢? 深入探索之後發現原來是對價值觀的定義有所差異，譬如說: 兩人當初都認同「尊重彼此」是維持婚姻關係最重要的元素，讓對方有自由的空間。 安東尼是來自於母親改嫁三次的家庭，擁有三個繼父及一個生父，而其太太是ㄧ個傳統天主教家庭長大的小孩，其媽媽告誡她，於婚姻關係中若有爭吵時，要先離開現場，等心平氣和時，再回頭溝通，這是對婚姻關係的尊重，而安東尼的母親給他的觀念卻是，沒有將話講清楚而離開現場是ㄧ個非常不尊重的行為，當下一定要將話講明白。雙方都非常重視「尊重」，但對其定義或認知的差異，對結果之影響卻是如此之大，我們可真的不能不察覺啊! 今天真的好充實，願與您分享。
2009/1/16
Reflection on The ICA vision Call for 2009
This Morning, I joined the ICA Vision Call for 2009, Host: Miss Bronwyn Bowery-Ireland. She shared the vision of ICA with us, "To be the No.1 of Human Developing Community on line in the world" which I am touched and really feel excited about it as well. She also shared a lot people with ICA training program, got very good experiences: 1. Part of the community which can share dreams free, 2. Self-awareness. ICA will expand to be more flexible and may change the name of company.
Since we are virtual community, I would like to share some idea about it in Chinese.
網路社群又稱虛擬社群、虛擬社區、網路社群或電子社群或電腦社群，是網際網路使用者互動後，產生的一種社會群體，例如部落格、即時通、msn等在互動後會形成一個類似社會上的人脈關係，目前這種人脈集結的特性跟實際社會不同是，可能這群人連見面都沒有，卻能夠因為相同興趣而結合為一群社群。
Since we are virtual community, I would like to share some idea about it in Chinese.
網路社群又稱虛擬社群、虛擬社區、網路社群或電子社群或電腦社群，是網際網路使用者互動後，產生的一種社會群體，例如部落格、即時通、msn等在互動後會形成一個類似社會上的人脈關係，目前這種人脈集結的特性跟實際社會不同是，可能這群人連見面都沒有，卻能夠因為相同興趣而結合為一群社群。
2009/1/15
Reflection on Course FC-105-Getting Started 1
Moderator-Angela Wahl
Today, I took a teleclass course, "Getting Started" with ICA. We got some problem with the line connection during the course and it took about 5 to 10 mins. Sometimes, silence can be kind of learning.
"What brought you to coach?" while the moderator, Angela asked. This is a powerful question to me and I did find out that a good question can make. During the sharing from other participants, I was getting much more clear about the reason brought me to coach training.
There are several questions which Angela asked to us, such as:
1. How to get start?
2. What would be your own coaching policy?
3. What would you like to do for people?
4. How will you break the cycle and begin to feel confident about coaching?
5. “What do you do?” create a 10-second elevator speech that willenthuse your prospect to say, “Tell me more about coaching!”
All these powerful questions make me reflection and all insight sharing from participants are very valuable to me. I have learned a lot during this participation and my forward action to this is just getting started to my prospective client.
Thank you so much, Angela and all attendants.
Today, I took a teleclass course, "Getting Started" with ICA. We got some problem with the line connection during the course and it took about 5 to 10 mins. Sometimes, silence can be kind of learning.
"What brought you to coach?" while the moderator, Angela asked. This is a powerful question to me and I did find out that a good question can make. During the sharing from other participants, I was getting much more clear about the reason brought me to coach training.
There are several questions which Angela asked to us, such as:
1. How to get start?
2. What would be your own coaching policy?
3. What would you like to do for people?
4. How will you break the cycle and begin to feel confident about coaching?
5. “What do you do?” create a 10-second elevator speech that willenthuse your prospect to say, “Tell me more about coaching!”
All these powerful questions make me reflection and all insight sharing from participants are very valuable to me. I have learned a lot during this participation and my forward action to this is just getting started to my prospective client.
Thank you so much, Angela and all attendants.
Reflection on Course FC-106-The Trial Session 1
Moderator-Isabelle King
Yesterday, I joined my third teleclass course, the trial session 1 and there was one attendant who was retired from a dentist made me impressed most. He and her wife now delicate themselves into this professional career and try to help more people to make their dream come true. It is a really nice life story to me about coaching.
Again, it was still so enjoyable experience, again. Isabelle said this trail session, someone may call "Getting to know you session", this is a very important moment that you and your prospective client, get to know each other and figure out that both of you fit to each other or not.
The moderator facilitate this course into four parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Invite Everyone Sharing Experience or any Question: What is your vision? Coaching is a right tool for them? Chemical Reaction, find a match?
3. Content Introducing-8 steps to get a trial session: Introduce the content and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"the trial session".
4. After Action Review (AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions about this topic and how you take away from this session.
I start to like this kind of teleclass which is very convenient and can get a lot of insight from other attendants' sharing.
Yesterday, I joined my third teleclass course, the trial session 1 and there was one attendant who was retired from a dentist made me impressed most. He and her wife now delicate themselves into this professional career and try to help more people to make their dream come true. It is a really nice life story to me about coaching.
Again, it was still so enjoyable experience, again. Isabelle said this trail session, someone may call "Getting to know you session", this is a very important moment that you and your prospective client, get to know each other and figure out that both of you fit to each other or not.
The moderator facilitate this course into four parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Invite Everyone Sharing Experience or any Question: What is your vision? Coaching is a right tool for them? Chemical Reaction, find a match?
3. Content Introducing-8 steps to get a trial session: Introduce the content and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"the trial session".
4. After Action Review (AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions about this topic and how you take away from this session.
I start to like this kind of teleclass which is very convenient and can get a lot of insight from other attendants' sharing.
2009/1/13
Reflection on Course FC-106-The Trial Session 2
Moderator-Sherry Read
Yesterday, I got the chance to join my second teleclass course in my life with ICA and I was still so excited. Again, it was a very special and enjoyable experience, again. The moderator facilitate this course into four parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Brief Course Introducing: Introduce the course and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"The Trial Session".
3. The trial session "Role-Play" practice: Invite someone who can be coach and coachee. In this course, Christian was coach and Med (I am not sure about the spelling) was coachee .
4. After Action Review (AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions to Christian about her performance in this practice and her own feedback. I really like and enjoy this learning structure and especially, while Sheri asked us again, please tell us what do you take away from this course. The final question did make me to review what I have learned during this participation and my forward action should be.
I am getting used to the teleclass and it is not so difficult as I thought at the beginning.
Yesterday, I got the chance to join my second teleclass course in my life with ICA and I was still so excited. Again, it was a very special and enjoyable experience, again. The moderator facilitate this course into four parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Brief Course Introducing: Introduce the course and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"The Trial Session".
3. The trial session "Role-Play" practice: Invite someone who can be coach and coachee. In this course, Christian was coach and Med (I am not sure about the spelling) was coachee .
4. After Action Review (AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions to Christian about her performance in this practice and her own feedback. I really like and enjoy this learning structure and especially, while Sheri asked us again, please tell us what do you take away from this course. The final question did make me to review what I have learned during this participation and my forward action should be.
I am getting used to the teleclass and it is not so difficult as I thought at the beginning.
2009/1/12
REFLECTION AND APPLICATION-EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK-The third one
1. What are three situations you might encounter as a coach in which
role-play could be useful?
a. A client is facing a situation in considering to change a job or career;
b. How to communicate something sensitive to a partner, especially the
partner is tough in his thought;
c. Correcting an employee’s behavior, while the client is in a level of
management team.
2. Find one friend who is willing to be coached on an issue. I had chances
to do two role-plays with one of my friend in asking for a raise and how
to apologize for something they did wrong several days ago.
Both of us did enjoy the process a lot and I have him to come out with
an insight which he always has, but doesn't have the chance to think it
out. This is a really nice learning experience.
3. BONUS: Practice with at least two more people. Do both, the standard
role-play and reverse role-play. I did this with my crew:
One is to practice about how to propose to his girlfriend, and the other
one is how to handle a complaint they have with his wife. We all
found the technology is very useful and we like it a lot.
role-play could be useful?
a. A client is facing a situation in considering to change a job or career;
b. How to communicate something sensitive to a partner, especially the
partner is tough in his thought;
c. Correcting an employee’s behavior, while the client is in a level of
management team.
2. Find one friend who is willing to be coached on an issue. I had chances
to do two role-plays with one of my friend in asking for a raise and how
to apologize for something they did wrong several days ago.
Both of us did enjoy the process a lot and I have him to come out with
an insight which he always has, but doesn't have the chance to think it
out. This is a really nice learning experience.
3. BONUS: Practice with at least two more people. Do both, the standard
role-play and reverse role-play. I did this with my crew:
One is to practice about how to propose to his girlfriend, and the other
one is how to handle a complaint they have with his wife. We all
found the technology is very useful and we like it a lot.
REFLECTION AND APPLICATION-EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK
When and how might you use role-play with your clients?
I really agree the perspective of role-play will provide a different perspective and allow them to not only practice receiving feedback, but also learn how to give it. When and how might you use role-play with your clients? Like the information we have in the document, I will use it for the following situations: when a client is unsure on how to have a conversation with someone; or has some fear around what to say and how to proceed. In this case, role-play becomes essentially a practice for conversation. This is done so the client can find some powerful and clear way to communicate to resolve the situation. As a coach, we can provide them with effective feedback on how to make it even more powerful. We can use the technology in two ways,
1. Role-play takes place when the client plays themselves.
2. Reverse role-play, the coach plays the role of the client, and the client play the role of the person they want to have a conversation with to clarify an issue.
I really agree the perspective of role-play will provide a different perspective and allow them to not only practice receiving feedback, but also learn how to give it. When and how might you use role-play with your clients? Like the information we have in the document, I will use it for the following situations: when a client is unsure on how to have a conversation with someone; or has some fear around what to say and how to proceed. In this case, role-play becomes essentially a practice for conversation. This is done so the client can find some powerful and clear way to communicate to resolve the situation. As a coach, we can provide them with effective feedback on how to make it even more powerful. We can use the technology in two ways,
1. Role-play takes place when the client plays themselves.
2. Reverse role-play, the coach plays the role of the client, and the client play the role of the person they want to have a conversation with to clarify an issue.
REFLECTION AND APPLICATION ON EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK
REFLECTION AND APPLICATION on EFFECTIVE FEEDBACK:
1. Choose three people who know me well and ask them for feedback on something in my life right now.
Answer: I choose the speech which I gave to my colleague.
2. Evaluate the feedback you were given. How did you respond? Was some feedback better than others? What made it so? What did you learn from this exercise?
Reflection: I highly appreciate about the feedback. For sure, there is some feedback better than others. While the feedback is simply a feedback, there are no personal opinions and judgments. What I learned from this exercise is "Give feedback is to simply mirror it back to the person the way we see it", this is very important. I appreciate neither judgments nor opinions while I got some feedback. I just would like to have someone give me effective feedback and I can judge and modify it by myself.
1. Choose three people who know me well and ask them for feedback on something in my life right now.
Answer: I choose the speech which I gave to my colleague.
2. Evaluate the feedback you were given. How did you respond? Was some feedback better than others? What made it so? What did you learn from this exercise?
Reflection: I highly appreciate about the feedback. For sure, there is some feedback better than others. While the feedback is simply a feedback, there are no personal opinions and judgments. What I learned from this exercise is "Give feedback is to simply mirror it back to the person the way we see it", this is very important. I appreciate neither judgments nor opinions while I got some feedback. I just would like to have someone give me effective feedback and I can judge and modify it by myself.
Discussion on Course FC-103-Effective Feedback
DISCUSSION: Today I got the chance to pick three topics to contribute to an open discussion on the discussion board under the topic Effective Feedback in ICA:
1. How do you feel about receiving feedback?
I feel so good, because I can discern that has been concerned by
someone else, especially, if the feedback is effective.
2. What is the difference between feedback and criticism?
The information from the document which we got,
Criticism is more to be: Personal/Fault-
finding/Opinion based/Unsolicited /Subjective
/Focused on the past/Destructive/Emotional.
Feedback is more about: Not personal/Opportunity finding
/Fact based/Often welcomed/Objective/Focused on the
future/Constructive/Not emotional, and neutral.
3. What is the purpose of feedback in a coaching situation?
Effective feedback creates a kind of awareness that makes a
difference in how one sees things. It provides insight, opens thought
and expands vision.
1. How do you feel about receiving feedback?
I feel so good, because I can discern that has been concerned by
someone else, especially, if the feedback is effective.
2. What is the difference between feedback and criticism?
The information from the document which we got,
Criticism is more to be: Personal/Fault-
finding/Opinion based/Unsolicited /Subjective
/Focused on the past/Destructive/Emotional.
Feedback is more about: Not personal/Opportunity finding
/Fact based/Often welcomed/Objective/Focused on the
future/Constructive/Not emotional, and neutral.
3. What is the purpose of feedback in a coaching situation?
Effective feedback creates a kind of awareness that makes a
difference in how one sees things. It provides insight, opens thought
and expands vision.
2009/1/9
Reflection on Course FC-103-Effective Feedback 2
Moderator-Angela Wahl
Yesterday, I got the chance to join my first teleclass course in my life with ICA and at beginning, I was so excited. This is a very special and enjoyable experience.
The moderator-Miss Angela Wahl, besides as a experienced coach, I found out that she is a very good facilitor as well. During the course process, she took care of all participants and invited everyone to join the discussion comfortably.
I would like to seperate the process into 4 parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Brief Course Introducing: Introduce the course and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"effective feedback".
3. Role-Play Practice: Invite someone who can be coach and coachee. In this course, Kevin was coach and Levi(I am not sure about the spelling) was coachee . They are talking about the career issue to the coachee.
4. After Action Review(AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions to Kevin about his performance in this role-play pracitce and his own feedback.
I really like and enjoy this learning structure and especially, while Angela asked us, please tell us what do you take away from this course. The final question did make me to review what I have learned during this participation and my further action should be.
Thank you so much, Angela and all attendants.
Yesterday, I got the chance to join my first teleclass course in my life with ICA and at beginning, I was so excited. This is a very special and enjoyable experience.
The moderator-Miss Angela Wahl, besides as a experienced coach, I found out that she is a very good facilitor as well. During the course process, she took care of all participants and invited everyone to join the discussion comfortably.
I would like to seperate the process into 4 parts:
1. Ice-Breaking: Welcome everyone, and invite every person to introduce themselves.
2. Brief Course Introducing: Introduce the course and ask attendants to share their own experience about the topic -"effective feedback".
3. Role-Play Practice: Invite someone who can be coach and coachee. In this course, Kevin was coach and Levi(I am not sure about the spelling) was coachee . They are talking about the career issue to the coachee.
4. After Action Review(AAR): Invite all attendants to share their opinions to Kevin about his performance in this role-play pracitce and his own feedback.
I really like and enjoy this learning structure and especially, while Angela asked us, please tell us what do you take away from this course. The final question did make me to review what I have learned during this participation and my further action should be.
Thank you so much, Angela and all attendants.
2009/1/5
Refection on the talking with learning buddy
Several days ago, I got the chance to talk with my learning buddy who lives in Tokyo, Japan. I really like her name Faiza: "Find your Authentic Self and Inspire your Zest for Action." Her name has explained a lot about coaching. In this learning journey, I am trying to learn how to inspire myself, then others to the zest for action. Through this learing process, I do believe that I can get the power and confidence about supporting people to making their dreams come true.
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