Moderator-Kathy Monuz
April 09, I took a teleclass course-AC 204, Re-Framing 1,
The moderator leaded it into 3 parts from my perspective:
1. Inviting attendants to share our opinions about perspective and Re-framing.
2. Asking questions to lead us to think about perspective and Re-framing.
3. Conclusion and ask for a homework.
I feel it is really a facilitation of Re-framing session.
One of the most valuable contributions a coach can make to a client is to help them discern – get clear on - their current perspective and enthuse them to shift into a more empowering one. When this happens, we call this reframing.
From the reading material, I do enjoying the following: "Have you ever looked at something and said “Aha! I got it!” When it “clicks” suddenly, there seems to be a breakthrough. "
Understanding happens. Re-framing is an art and when done powerfully, it can change a client’s life in an instant. A powerful question to ask when someone is going through a difficult time is: "What is your perspective on this that is giving you this result?" Followed by: "How could you reframe this?" In other words, “let’s look at this in a different light to better understand this situation.”
ere are some powerful questions we could use to help someone reframe their perspective and in the course, the moderator facilitate us to experience it:
“How does that perspective work for you?”
"How could this be fun?"
"What will it take to reach this particular objective?"
"If you were up for a breakthrough with your productivity, what would you do?"
"What is the most enjoyable aspect about this?"
"What's missing here, that once it is included, will make this situation flow?"
"Can you understand the other person’s perspective?"
Re-framing is a very powerful idea in coaching.
2009/4/28
AC101 Acknoledgement (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
April 06, I took the teleclass course- AC101: Acknowledgement (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Acknowledgement is the way to bring the people to focus on what they have”. It should make people feel comfortable and nature.
When to Acknowledge, Acknowledgment comes after the client has taken action. However acknowledgment is not just about the action, it is about who the client is being while they are taking action. We acknowledge our clients for their values and their purpose and not just their activity. The language we use for acknowledging someone is: “I want to acknowledge you for….”
Encourage, there is a Chinese proverb that states: “The participant's perspectives are clouded while the bystander's views are clear.” There are many times when the client cannot see what we, as their coach, can see.
Hold a Vision, part of holding a vision is also reminding the client of how far they have come. A powerful strategy for holding the vision is to have them look into their past to recall experiences they have had which seemed impossible but became possible.
When we hold a vision for our clients we say things like:
● “What evidence do you have to prove to yourself that you can do this?”
● “Tell me what happened when you were challenged with (insert a goal that they achieved)?” As coaches, we help turn the vision into reality, the dream into an achievement and the goal into an accomplishment. Encouragement leads to persistence and attainment.
This is a nice course to learn about inspiring a client by using acknowledgement.
April 06, I took the teleclass course- AC101: Acknowledgement (part 2).
In this course, what I impressed most is the sentence of “Acknowledgement is the way to bring the people to focus on what they have”. It should make people feel comfortable and nature.
When to Acknowledge, Acknowledgment comes after the client has taken action. However acknowledgment is not just about the action, it is about who the client is being while they are taking action. We acknowledge our clients for their values and their purpose and not just their activity. The language we use for acknowledging someone is: “I want to acknowledge you for….”
Encourage, there is a Chinese proverb that states: “The participant's perspectives are clouded while the bystander's views are clear.” There are many times when the client cannot see what we, as their coach, can see.
Hold a Vision, part of holding a vision is also reminding the client of how far they have come. A powerful strategy for holding the vision is to have them look into their past to recall experiences they have had which seemed impossible but became possible.
When we hold a vision for our clients we say things like:
● “What evidence do you have to prove to yourself that you can do this?”
● “Tell me what happened when you were challenged with (insert a goal that they achieved)?” As coaches, we help turn the vision into reality, the dream into an achievement and the goal into an accomplishment. Encouragement leads to persistence and attainment.
This is a nice course to learn about inspiring a client by using acknowledgement.
AC112 Powerful Requests (2) -Relection on this course
Moderator-Sherry Read
March 23, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC112 Powerful Requests (2). As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
A request is like a contract. The client has three options:
• Accept it
• Say no, and give a reason
• Negotiation
if clients make no progress on what he had promised:
Find the Root Cause out, ask some questions:
1. How do you feel if you accomplish the goal?
2. Could be something block!
3. Even it is not what they really want.
4. Do you really want to accomplish the goal?
5. A lot of dimensions to see as a coach!
Challenging our clients, this is what I really get feeling about. I would like to quoted it from our reading material which I do think that it is good for me to use, while I am facing the situation:
Challenges are similar to making a Bold Request, except that there's a zest to challenges that stimulates many people. It's a fun perspective and it has an element of game to it. For instance, when you say: "I challenge you to increase your sales by 20 percent this week," you are setting the standard for improvement. It is an I-dare-you-game, or let’s-play-to-see-if-you-can-do-this type of a game: "I challenge you to share this with your father in the next two days." This statement "pushes" the client to do something rather than nothing. The best thing you can do for a client is to "raise the bar." Give them a bigger game to play and have fun!
Thank you and this is a wonderful way to stimulate the coachee.
March 23, I spent time to jump into the ICA teleclass course- AC112 Powerful Requests (2). As usual, the moderator asked us, any wins to share at the beginning.
A request is like a contract. The client has three options:
• Accept it
• Say no, and give a reason
• Negotiation
if clients make no progress on what he had promised:
Find the Root Cause out, ask some questions:
1. How do you feel if you accomplish the goal?
2. Could be something block!
3. Even it is not what they really want.
4. Do you really want to accomplish the goal?
5. A lot of dimensions to see as a coach!
Challenging our clients, this is what I really get feeling about. I would like to quoted it from our reading material which I do think that it is good for me to use, while I am facing the situation:
Challenges are similar to making a Bold Request, except that there's a zest to challenges that stimulates many people. It's a fun perspective and it has an element of game to it. For instance, when you say: "I challenge you to increase your sales by 20 percent this week," you are setting the standard for improvement. It is an I-dare-you-game, or let’s-play-to-see-if-you-can-do-this type of a game: "I challenge you to share this with your father in the next two days." This statement "pushes" the client to do something rather than nothing. The best thing you can do for a client is to "raise the bar." Give them a bigger game to play and have fun!
Thank you and this is a wonderful way to stimulate the coachee.
2009/4/24
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Eleventh
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 16, 2009, I had my eleventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza.
Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins for the last week:
~ A much better inner dialog practice with myself
~ Exercise more with jogging 6km, 3km/per time, three times/per week
~ Test my passion game in more detail.
~ Start to get more confidence about my coaching model.
I feel that you have done so much and made a great progress in so many ways since you joined the ICA and I really wish to ACKNOWLEDGE YOU for that!
How does it feel to have learned and accomplished so much in such a short time?
Coaching truly is a transformational process, isn't it?
In our last session we used a process I learned through NLP, it is called Core Issue.
You can find more about it in the book that I can recommend to any coach:
"Coaching with NLP"
http://www.amazon.co.jp/s/ref=nb_ss_fg_eng?__mk_ja_JP=%83J%83%5E%83J%83i&url=search-alias%3Denglish-books&field-keywords=coaching+with+NLP&x=0&y=0
Using this process we explored what spirituality means for you
and you found that you could connect with it much better this way, it felt more realistic now.
We also mentioned a teacher of mine (Bert Hellinger, developer of Family Constellations) and what "enlightened" means to him.
You seem to like his definition. And this relates what Nani Ma says about serving (the paragraph I sent you).
It seems like you are defining what spirituality and enlightenment mean to you - How exciting:)
We are going to start with our 12th session soon, so let's have fun and make this a memorable session ~
your coach Faiza
April 16, 2009, I had my eleventh peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza.
Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins for the last week:
~ A much better inner dialog practice with myself
~ Exercise more with jogging 6km, 3km/per time, three times/per week
~ Test my passion game in more detail.
~ Start to get more confidence about my coaching model.
I feel that you have done so much and made a great progress in so many ways since you joined the ICA and I really wish to ACKNOWLEDGE YOU for that!
How does it feel to have learned and accomplished so much in such a short time?
Coaching truly is a transformational process, isn't it?
In our last session we used a process I learned through NLP, it is called Core Issue.
You can find more about it in the book that I can recommend to any coach:
"Coaching with NLP"
http://www.amazon.co.jp/s/ref=nb_ss_fg_eng?__mk_ja_JP=%83J%83%5E%83J%83i&url=search-alias%3Denglish-books&field-keywords=coaching+with+NLP&x=0&y=0
Using this process we explored what spirituality means for you
and you found that you could connect with it much better this way, it felt more realistic now.
We also mentioned a teacher of mine (Bert Hellinger, developer of Family Constellations) and what "enlightened" means to him.
You seem to like his definition. And this relates what Nani Ma says about serving (the paragraph I sent you).
It seems like you are defining what spirituality and enlightenment mean to you - How exciting:)
We are going to start with our 12th session soon, so let's have fun and make this a memorable session ~
your coach Faiza
2009/4/16
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Tenth
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 09, 2009, I had my tenth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
Wins for this last week:
~ The biggest win was the creating of my coaching model, draft.
~ Created 9 passion cards and put some of them up (at work and at home, in the car...)
~ Kept my exercise routine - running 3 times a week, 3km each run
We discussed what coaching means to me. Thanks to the Passion Game I felt that I have more clarity now around this. Coaching is one of my skills and it helps me reach what I want in my life.
Besides being a coach, I also want to be a teacher and facilitator (team building for example).
We also looked at the Wheel of Life again and had me grade my levels of satisfaction for each area in this moment. It seems like I have a pretty smooth ride.
After this we did something fun, something new and daring:
Faiza offered me a coaching challenge of having a laser (5 min.) coaching session to coach her.
I went for it
The powerful questions I used as the coach:
~ What was the reason (What made you) you started thinking about working with this partner in the first place?
...
So it originally sounded like a good combination and what you are concerned about is your partner's commitment.
~ Do you have any ways, any criteria to test your partner's commitment?...
What I noticed in this session about your coaching competencies:
- You listened to me deeply and without interrupting
- You asked me good, powerful coaching questions
- You were fully present in our session
- You helped me create awareness
- You helped me design an action
For a list of all coaching competencies go to:
http://www.coachfederation.org/research%2Deducation/icf%2Dcredentials/core%2Dcompetencies/
What I acknowledged myself for in this session:
~ I really enjoyed the laser session
~ I noticed the improvement in my Wheel of Life.
~ I was grateful for the coach using the right pace with me
My homeplay for the next week:
~ keep playing the Passion Game by taking the next step - Have fun with the Markers!
~ think about practicing more coaching
Thank you, my dear coach, Miss Faiza!
April 09, 2009, I had my tenth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
Wins for this last week:
~ The biggest win was the creating of my coaching model, draft.
~ Created 9 passion cards and put some of them up (at work and at home, in the car...)
~ Kept my exercise routine - running 3 times a week, 3km each run
We discussed what coaching means to me. Thanks to the Passion Game I felt that I have more clarity now around this. Coaching is one of my skills and it helps me reach what I want in my life.
Besides being a coach, I also want to be a teacher and facilitator (team building for example).
We also looked at the Wheel of Life again and had me grade my levels of satisfaction for each area in this moment. It seems like I have a pretty smooth ride.
After this we did something fun, something new and daring:
Faiza offered me a coaching challenge of having a laser (5 min.) coaching session to coach her.
I went for it
The powerful questions I used as the coach:
~ What was the reason (What made you) you started thinking about working with this partner in the first place?
...
So it originally sounded like a good combination and what you are concerned about is your partner's commitment.
~ Do you have any ways, any criteria to test your partner's commitment?...
What I noticed in this session about your coaching competencies:
- You listened to me deeply and without interrupting
- You asked me good, powerful coaching questions
- You were fully present in our session
- You helped me create awareness
- You helped me design an action
For a list of all coaching competencies go to:
http://www.coachfederation.org/research%2Deducation/icf%2Dcredentials/core%2Dcompetencies/
What I acknowledged myself for in this session:
~ I really enjoyed the laser session
~ I noticed the improvement in my Wheel of Life.
~ I was grateful for the coach using the right pace with me
My homeplay for the next week:
~ keep playing the Passion Game by taking the next step - Have fun with the Markers!
~ think about practicing more coaching
Thank you, my dear coach, Miss Faiza!
Reflection on Peer Coaching - The Session Ninth
Peer Coaching with Mrs. Faiza Ikeda
April 02, 2009, I had my ninth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins:
~ worked on my coaching logo, card and model: the symbol on the card is a crystal vessel (also the name of the blog).
"Crystal"~ stands for transparent, not hiding anything.
"Vessel" ~ represents a container that can contain a lot of water / flow
Chinese ancient philosopher "Lao Tsu" said something like:
Water is the best, it can wash everything, it's flexible, and it can carry a ship...
A leader should be like water (the best is to be like water).
"Vessel" = Coach listens to the client, and is being like water (flexible, can wash everything)
"Crystal" = clear, transparent, and strong
"Crystal Vessel and Sky" = both can be as a symbol of "Dreams" (client's dreams get realized through coaching)
The meaning of my name:
Jen - empathy, kindness, following the power of nature
Yung - courage (People should never give up. Never Say Never!)
We used a process-passion game for selecting my top five passions.
And here is the list of my Top Five Passions:
1. I am helping people to reach their goals and improve life quality
2. I am enjoying an ideal relationship with my family
3. I am having free will and time to do things at the present
4. I am a good teacher, facilitator and coach
5. I am totally free in my body, mind and soul
Acknowledge myself:
~ I can use my coaching skills to help people reach their goals. I feel that now I have more power to help others.
~ I am grateful for being able to understand my self better now
~ I am getting a better idea of how to explain my coaching model
My home-play for this week:
Keep playing the passion game by taking the next step in the process.
Thank you so much, my dear coach!
April 02, 2009, I had my ninth peer coaching with my peer coach, Miss Faiza. Here is the summary from my coach and I would like to share it with you.
My wins:
~ worked on my coaching logo, card and model: the symbol on the card is a crystal vessel (also the name of the blog).
"Crystal"~ stands for transparent, not hiding anything.
"Vessel" ~ represents a container that can contain a lot of water / flow
Chinese ancient philosopher "Lao Tsu" said something like:
Water is the best, it can wash everything, it's flexible, and it can carry a ship...
A leader should be like water (the best is to be like water).
"Vessel" = Coach listens to the client, and is being like water (flexible, can wash everything)
"Crystal" = clear, transparent, and strong
"Crystal Vessel and Sky" = both can be as a symbol of "Dreams" (client's dreams get realized through coaching)
The meaning of my name:
Jen - empathy, kindness, following the power of nature
Yung - courage (People should never give up. Never Say Never!)
We used a process-passion game for selecting my top five passions.
And here is the list of my Top Five Passions:
1. I am helping people to reach their goals and improve life quality
2. I am enjoying an ideal relationship with my family
3. I am having free will and time to do things at the present
4. I am a good teacher, facilitator and coach
5. I am totally free in my body, mind and soul
Acknowledge myself:
~ I can use my coaching skills to help people reach their goals. I feel that now I have more power to help others.
~ I am grateful for being able to understand my self better now
~ I am getting a better idea of how to explain my coaching model
My home-play for this week:
Keep playing the passion game by taking the next step in the process.
Thank you so much, my dear coach!
2009/4/9
AC107 Coaching Model (1) -Relection on this course
Moderator- Bill Turpin
March 24, I took AC107 Coaching Model (1), since I am developing my own coaching model, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.
Bill shared us with his coaching model as an example to describe what’s different between coaching model and coaching process. The definition is as below:
Coaching model: Is how you process as a coach! / Is what I use in each case.
Coaching process: Is what happened to the client! / Is how the client experienced?
Finally, we should be able to pattern, visualize, and verbalize the coaching model. It is how a client describes your way of coaching. It is how you attract your client. It is about who we are, and what we can bring to our clients! Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
March 24, I took AC107 Coaching Model (1), since I am developing my own coaching model, this course gave me some hints in developing the coaching model.
Bill facilitated this class to be a supportive class by asking the attendants for differentiating the coaching model and coaching process.
Bill shared us with his coaching model as an example to describe what’s different between coaching model and coaching process. The definition is as below:
Coaching model: Is how you process as a coach! / Is what I use in each case.
Coaching process: Is what happened to the client! / Is how the client experienced?
Finally, we should be able to pattern, visualize, and verbalize the coaching model. It is how a client describes your way of coaching. It is how you attract your client. It is about who we are, and what we can bring to our clients! Coaching is all about the client, thank you!
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